#261 Snippets of wisdom: How to rewire your brain.

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Agi Keramidas  0:06  
Welcome to Personal Development mastery podcast episode 261. This is the third snippets of wisdom episode. In this episode, I select my favourite most insightful moments from previous episodes of the podcast. The snippet of wisdom I chose for today comes from one of my most highlighted episodes number 170 with Bob Doyle, who is best known for his contribution in the film and book The Secret as a featured Law of Attraction expert. The conversation took place in August 2021. It is one of my favourite episodes, and there are many impactful moments and usable wisdom in the conversation. The snippet I chose to play for you today is about our autopilot behaviours, and how to use mental rehearsal to rewire our brain and step out of those automatic, unconscious responses that we have. I hope you find this snippet of wisdom as insightful as I have. Here it is. 

Agi Keramidas  1:24  
You spoke about the autopilot. And that's a very fascinating concept. And my my question to you and I'm sure you hear that often is the thing. The thing with the autopilot is that it takes over it hence the autopilot. So being able to detach from that, take a step back and realise that I am on the autopilot. I think that these a step, it is obviously the most important step because you become aware of the autopilot. How can you step back from the autopilot to observe the autopilot?

Bob Doyle  2:01  
Yes. So you're training yourself to become aware. So it's literally a negative feeling or a disempowering emotion is a trigger for you to basically say to yourself, This is not the truth, this is just my wiring. Okay, so now knowing that is one thing, but as you said, it's, it's difficult to just shift that sometimes because there's a lot of biology that happens are when we make meaning out of a situation, you were flooded with all these hormones that give us this experience of emotion. And we're literally on on our own drugs. And so it's even another layer of challenge to rise above that, and still be conscious and go, Wow, I'm on autopilot. Mentally. I'm on autopilot physically, right and I but I but I see that it's just my wiring. Now, if you haven't already decided how you'd like to be different in that situation, then it can be really challenging. But part of my process is working with people is on a daily basis, you're going to sort of look ahead that for things that you know are coming up, obviously, there's going to be the surprises, but things that are coming up in your day where you think you might get triggered into an autopilot reaction, right? In a similar situation. You You know, you get too quiet or you talk too much, or whatever it is. So you get to rehearse a different way of being ahead of time. This is the magic of our brain. See, we are definitely here to create our experience of reality. Our brain is just it's all about imagination and visualisation giving us the ability to take action. I mean, we are here to create reality there is no, there's just there's no argument. We're built with these passions and these interest in these, this drive to grow and expand just like the rest of the universe. The universe is ever expanding, we are a part of that universe. Therefore, if we don't expand, like if I'm in a dead end job and I'm feeling we feel it, because we're going against our very very nature, we're here to have these amazing experiences. So having that having a vision for yourself that inspires you. This is all important too. It can't be sort of lacklustre, this desire to change has to be as important and non negotiable as learning to walk or learning to talk or whatever it is that you know that this is non negotiable. So you have to make your vision, who you want to be and the results you're gonna get and how happy all the feelings that come with it, that's got to become non negotiable, that will help you in those moments, when you have the wire because you because you know this person cannot have what the future person is going to have. And it is not negotiable, I must have that. So I have to let go of this and I have to choose something else as difficult or tricky as it can be. Now, the this is the reason that personal development has such a huge failure rate because there can be great programmes out there and there are you know, but if a person doesn't stick with any one thing long enough for the wiring to take hold, of course there's not going to be any permanent trains information and to think otherwise is again that magical thinking, it's completely unrealistic, we're driven by the wiring in our brain. And if we don't change it, if we don't change the behaviour long enough to make those neural pathways actually permanent, then of course, any old trigger is going to activate the decades of wiring we have and we're going to be swept right back up. So again, the awareness is, it gets easier, it gets easier with time, you've just noticed, oh, I'm upset. This is autopilot. And I've rehearsed a different way of being and now I'm going to do it. And then at the end of the day, part of our process is going back over your day and going, Okay, where did I maybe what could I have done better? How could I have been a little bit more congruent with the person I want to be, and not so autopilot, and then you get to rehearse that and run that and run that with all the feelings, and that and it's been proven time and time again, that these mental rehearsals have physical effects. You know, you hear about an athletics all the time, people just rehearsing their move their jump there, whatever it is, over and over and over again, in their mind, and they're growing neural pathways that will that will actually show themselves in the physical so that we're not the way that we're using our brain as a whole humanity is to worry about crap. Right? Think about things think about our for solve our problems. So we're not creating anything new. And we're not growing, we're stuck on this or we're ruminating about the past, or we're worried about the future. And that is, of course going to determine the behaviour we take, that we have, and any of the action we take and thus the results we get. But if we fill our minds with this vision of the future and empowerment and how we're being and how we're feeling and all of that, then our actions are the meaning we make out of things is much more likely to be in alignment with that instead of our old way and that's how our life changes.

Agi Keramidas  6:48  
Thank you for listening. You can find the full conversation in Episode 170. The link is in the show notes. If you got value from today's episode, and you would be so kind take a moment and leave me an Apple podcasts or Spotify review sharing how personal development mastery has made a difference to you today. Until next time, stand out don't fit in!