#332 Snippets of wisdom: The four primary questions to build your life on.

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Agi Keramidas  0:02  
Welcome to Personal Development mastery podcast. And this is another snippets of wisdom episode where I select my favourite most insightful moments from previous episodes of the podcast. Today's snippet of wisdom comes from my conversation with Richard Flint, a keynote speaker, trainer and mentor. And the snippet I chose from that conversation is about the four primary questions to build your life on. I hope it is as insightful for you as it was for me.

Richard Flint  0:37  
There are four questions that you can build your life on, and they come in one order. And you can't go to question number two, until you can answer question number one, you can't go to three or four, until you answer question number two, or number three. And here are the questions where everything has to start. What do I really want from my life? And it's not what do I want? That says that's a surface question. The word really is the word that digs inside you. What do you really want for your life? I find that most people live unhappy with their life. Because it's all outside. You know, I'm known for my definition of words. I've written core values of dictionaries. And this is my definition of a job because people have a job. My definition of a job is an environment that a human goes to every day where they prostitute themselves for a paycheck, that they're not happy doing it. But they do it for the money. But yet, they keep talking about what they're going to do someday with their life. And the challenge, the challenge with most people, is they get so locked into that circle of sameness. They never get to the really want for your life. And to have that be better and to be smarter and to be stronger. It's got to be based in what do you really want for your life? And, you know, with what you're doing with your life, does it give you happiness? Does it give you a sense of fulfilment? Does it let you be free to be you? And if it doesn't, then you're you're a prisoner within yourself. Now, you and I both known people that have had a career, and they've worked one job for 30 years, 40 years, 50 years. But you know what? That's their passion. That's what they want to do with their life. And if you ask him, What do you really want for your life? They'll tell you, I'm doing it. But that's a very small percentage. Auggie. Most people live their life running are not understanding what they could really do with their life. So question number one, what do you really want for your life? That's purpose. That's purpose. And then question number two, why do you really want this? You know, if you can have the if you know the what, why do you really want this? And that's the discovery process. of why am I willing to give myself to this? What's it going to bring to my life? What's it going to allow my life to give to others? And those two questions stand alone of the four, because that's the purpose and the discovery. Now, once I can answer those two, I'm ready for question number three. And these last two questions really get really get tough. What price Am I willing to pay to achieve it? I would venture to say that in your life, that not everything for you has come easy. And I would venture to say that you're where you are today. Because you know what the price tag has been, and you've been willing to pay it. And it's it's more than financial, it's mental. It's emotional, It's spiritual. For everything you and I want to do with our life. There's a price tag to it. You know, and I would just be very open with your your listeners. You know, until the COVID virus hit I was I was doing 100 to 125 engagements all over the world. And I was living on the walk the road 200 plus days a year. And there were nights alone in a hotel room okay, when in my quiet time I've asked God God, why have you chosen me for this? You Why is this what you want from from my life? And nights when I'd be scooting across the sky late at night on an aeroplane getting to the next city? You know, I would struggle with that, you know, why are you doing this. And I'd always come back to understand this, what I'm doing with my life, is what I was put on this earth to do. And there's a price tag to it. And if the price tag ever comes to the place where it's too much, then I'll stop. But that price tag has to be built in a passion for what you're doing. And I love what I do. I love it every day, I am passionate about this, because I really believe that people will pay attention to what I teach, that I can help them find a difference in their life. You know, and there's got to be the self motivation. I mean, people ask me all the time, are you a motivational speaker? And I tell them, No, I'm an educational entertainer. Because what I do is I entertain people with with knowledge. And if I have to motivate Aki, then I have to adopt him. And I don't want to do that. But I can teach you the process for self motivation. I can teach you that. And then there has to be a big price tag, which is discipline. I mean, if you and I are not disciplined, then what do we do? We create procrastination, we create clutter, we get our life just really messed up. Discipline is that inner desire and determination with your feet nailed to the ground to this is what I'm supposed to do with my life. And then question number four is really the is really the ultimate question. What behaviours will I have to improve? To achieve what I want? And I need for people to understand the word I use. I didn't say what behaviours will I need to change. But I said improve why? Because change is an emotional word. Most people fight change, because change is designed to take you out of a comfortable routine. And I it's not about what I need to change. It's what I need to improve every day my mind wants me to improve. Everyday my mind opens up opportunities for me. And to continue to grow, I have to look at my life through the self limitations I put on me and working with human behaviour. And I take on 10 people a year from all over the world and I'm their their mentor for one year of their life. And the thing that we keep looking at is where do you need to improve because limitations are self imposed. And so many of these argue these limitations are imposed because of people's fear. From the day I was born to the day that I die, and the same thing with you, you and I are going to fight six fears in our life. The fear of the unknown, that can hold people hostage, the fear of abandonment, that will hold someone hostage the fear of failure the fear of rejection, the fear of loss, and in the number one argue with young people today, the fear of success. Young people don't know what success is today. They know what it is to be taken care of. But when they have to stand on their own two feet they haven't been prepared. So what behaviour or behaviours am I going to have to improve? In order for me to take my what my why and my price tag and implement them?

Agi Keramidas  9:25  
Thank you for tuning in, you can listen to the full conversation in Episode 226. The link is in the show notes. And before I leave you for today, let me add as a quick reminder that for the time being the podcast has one episode a week it's Monday and not too and I also have a present for you. Would you like a free copy of my first book 88 actionable insights for life? It is my way of saying thank you for listening to the podcast. Simply go to AGIKERAMIDAS.COM/88 and you can download your copy for free.

Agi Keramidas  10:06  
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