#375 What would you say to someone who wants to grow, but most of the people around them have a fixed mindset?

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Agi Keramidas  0:03  
Welcome to Episode 375, of personal development mastery podcast. If you are someone who is on a journey of personal growth, but most people around you prefer to settle, then today's episode is for you. During the interviews I did last year, I asked some of my guests a specific question that was put to me by one of the listeners, Alice, thank you very much, by the way for this question, Alice. In today's episode, you will hear five of the previous podcast guests answered that question. And the question I asked my guest was, what would you say to someone who wants to grow, but most of the people around them or their peers have quite a fixed mindset preferring to settle rather than grow? These answers were not published in the respective episode. So this is the very first time that they are being shared. You can read more about each of the five guests in the show notes. So let's dive right in.

Allyson Chavez  1:21  
I would say two things, it's when we get into personal development, we want all of our family and our loved ones to be part of our journey, and most people are not ready to grow, let it be okay, that they are where they are. And also that it be okay that you are where you are, don't make anybody wrong. And by the way, my husband was the same way I wanted to grow, he didn't, but instead of like trying to pull them along, like a stubborn mule, I just let him have his journey. But I also stopped denying my journey, and my desire to grow. So he was okay. And he was safe where he was, and I was safe. And I was okay, where I was. And do you know what was so great about that is that as he saw me getting happier and happier without trying to make him be anything other than he was, he followed me, and he wanted to grow as well.

Gul Sonmez  2:15  
Is is really important to understand that it is your journey, and everybody is different. But everybody is binded by their fears. So usually they put on their limitations on you, because of the traumas or the fears or the things they went through in their childhood, or they went through in their lifetime, or their cultures. So in these things, I always remind myself to ground, the Kitri, you know, ground to this nature ground to this world, and put a giant protection around you because you don't need to take everyone's energy. And always just remember that opinions are just coming through everyone's own struggles. So they are very loaded. This is why I always say if you need opinion, go to an expert. If you need friends, just have fun. You don't need that opinion. So this is what I always say.

Agi Keramidas  3:11  
What would you say to someone who wants to grow, but most of the people around them have a fixed mindset preferring to settle rather than grow?

Joe Moffett  3:20  
It's a tough question. And I'll give two answers here. If you can, if you have the ability to leave that environment, it seems obvious, and I know you probably love them. And if you truly love them, the best thing you can do is go out there and move move away and go out and succeed. That's the best thing you can do. Now I get it, sometimes you can't, you have to be around that environment. So what I like to do is I surround myself in a different environment. And what I mean is, I am constantly feeding my brain with the best mindset people in the world like Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, those are like, you can do that in your bedroom, right and you can fill yourself up. And if you I always like to say this, if you feed your mind more than you feed your body, your life's gonna go in a different direction. But what you do is after you feed yourself, you have to stay on guard at the gate of your mind, you have to know and anticipate that hey, they're going to be this way. And just because they're that way doesn't mean they're bad people they're doing the best they can with the resources they have their intention is pure as they try to protect you and I've had that happened in my own family. And if you can move I would get out and go into another environment. If you can't surround yourself with books, audio when you do get out get around people who are like you fill your cup as much as you can because it's much easier to protect your mind when you're folding when you're empty. And so the more you can dive into that the better I think up so hope that helps.

Lucia Montanaro  4:53  
One often says that your your life is is a reflection of the five people that You spend most time with. So you, you have to, it's important to make a conscious choice of what to immerse yourself in. And if, if you're strongly linked to someone, but that that person drains you, and doesn't help you in your growth, though, then you can decide to spend less time with that person, if you want to stay connected, isn't always you know, never see that person again or radical, but it's it's being conscientious with what your time is, and, and where you put your energy is, and and understand fundamentally understand that the opinions and perspectives of other people do not define you. And this is absolutely crucial. The only person in the world that defines you is yourself.

Scott Anderson  6:01  
One of the things I found that it's very, very helpful is to form a community or join a community of like minded people. You know, they say that you, you can't accomplish more than the four people that you spend the most time with. And so this doesn't mean to abandon friends. But it does mean that to have a commitment to have a community, with people that are wanting the same things that you're wanting and are pursuing their will, will really help and to be, you know, and this isn't again, to say that we forsake our friends or family or whatever, but to be in community is very important. This is one of the reasons why the burnout breakthrough programme has a mastermind programme, where once a week, we do a zoom call for a couple of hours, and mainly talk about celebrations of what people are achieving, not only in terms of their businesses, but mainly in terms of personal growth, and to be in an environment like that. All fires burn brighter and hotter. Otherwise, you know, we really are we're not going to accomplish more than the people we spend the most time with. And so sometimes we can feel comfortable staying with old friends with a limited point of view, but we're never going to be it'll be very difficult anyway, to break through that mindset.

Agi Keramidas  7:32  
I hope you found something insightful in these five answers and something you can implement in order of appearance. The five guests that you heard word Allison service, Gil Sonmez, Joe Morphett, Lucia Montanaro and Scott Anderson. You can read more about each of these five guests in the show notes. One last thing before I close this episode today is an invitation to you who are listening. I invite you to find me on social media and send me a message I'd love to connect with you and hear your thoughts on how the podcast can be more useful to you. Or you can tell me a particular topic you would like to hear about. I look forward to hearing from you. And until next time, stand out don't fit in