Perhaps you have invested years in therapy, coaching or spiritual practice, and yet the same things keep coming back: the perfectionism, the people-pleasing, the need to stay in control. The missing piece may not be in the mind at all, but in the nervous system.
In this conversation, I speak with Alena Candova about why so many of our patterns were born in childhood to protect us, and why lasting change begins with self-compassion rather than self-criticism. Alena shares the moment on a silent retreat in Bali when she was asked to turn love towards herself, and broke.
In this episode, you’ll discover how to:
◆ Understand why recognising your limiting patterns isn’t enough to change them, and how the state of your nervous system shapes your everyday behaviour.
◆ Build a more compassionate relationship with perfectionism, people-pleasing and other protective patterns, by getting curious about what they were originally trying to do for you.
◆ Start a simple daily practice of conscious breathing, body awareness and curiosity, even two minutes at a time, to create space for deeper self-understanding and lasting growth.
Press play, and notice what begins to shift when you stop fighting your patterns and start listening to them.
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MEMORABLE QUOTE:
“When we are hard on ourselves, our brain cannot learn.”
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VALUABLE RESOURCES:
Connect with Alena at sattvaintegralhealth.com
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Coaching with Agi: https://personaldevelopmentmasterypodcast.com/mentor
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Personal development podcast for midlife professionals, offering actionable insights for personal growth, mindset tips, self mastery and purposeful living.
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