#135 The happiness blueprint, meditation, and the journey to find inner peace, with Tiffany Nguyen.

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In today's show, it is my real pleasure to speak with Tiffany Nguyen. Tiffany you are spiritual life coach a speaker and the Doctor of Pharmacy. You help busy professionals and sensitive high achievers reconnect with their truths and live authentically. You break your brain bring a unique approach to one's self transformation journey combining practicality and spiritual wisdom to guide them towards clarity and confidence in who they are and lead them to inner peace and happiness differently. Welcome to personal development mastery. It's such a pleasure to speak with you today. Thank you. So we start with some background that actually I wanted to start with your story, which has many interesting points. So you emigrated to the US when you were 16? And so do you want to share with us the the harsh realities that you figured out? And first of all, why you did that in the first place?

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So it's quite very common, and I would guess, developing country for kids or middle class growing up to plan to study abroad. So I so I'm from Vietnam, and it's a very common goal for student if you have, like, I guess like adequate, your family is like, okay, and actually, and you do good Academy, Klee I usually is planned. Everybody like like to orient the student or their children to have a plan to study abroad, because the higher education's either in Europe or in America has much higher value compared to university degree in Vietnam. So you know, it was always coming out of the impatient to have a better life. So education is very, very high priority in Vietnam, and very high pressure. So I was looking to do well in school, and my family at the time was we middle class. Um, so we're, it's always is so I was always be under the impression that I was meant to study abroad, and it would just depending on the time, and so at that time, I was lucky to get a visa to the US. And before Europe. So I went to the US by myself. Um, that's just usually the nature of studying abroad. Did you go by yourself? Sure. And for somebody, I guess it's very common. But for somebody like me, who never been out of the country before, or travel anywhere without my family, I never realise how difficult it is until I actually do it. So it's a thing, it's a lot of thing in life. It's a when you don't know exactly what it is you just have an idea, but you don't know what's going on until you actually do it. And it was just came as a shock, especially as a teenager, you know, like, I don't really do research. Before I came here. I didn't think it was a choice. You know, it seemed like either Europe or America, I have to go study. So I didn't do a lot of research. So it was very difficult when I came over to the US because I didn't know the culture or English. So I know. Sorry, I didn't know the language either. So I came over and everybody at school was thinking I was mute and Deaf because I can't, I couldn't understand and I couldn't respond. So you were I was treated differently. And I went to high school and that neighbourhood, and I was like almost like I feel like a very, very minority. And most of them were white. You know, different days, and I didn't see anybody, like same colour with me or same culture would be. And it's very hard. So it's very isolating experience. For me, particularly my one of my biggest fear is loneliness. So when I was pushed into a situation that was very isolating, that I have nowhere to run, but to actually feel it, and I did everything in my power to just run away from the loneliness, and it just like crippling depressions and isolating. So that's very difficult.

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Is it very, yeah. Yeah, when it is your, your biggest fear as well, and you can't avoid it anymore. And you will face it. So maybe, I would like you to tell us, how does that feel when you face your greatest fear

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actually faces whether it was just two to two months to try to survive, and, you know, try to adapt to the new environment. Um, so that's why I was like, get into a lot of like, unhealthy relationship, just to not being alone. So I was spend time with anyone who would pay me any amount, just so I don't just don't be alone. Because my mind is not a very good place when I was being alone. Um, so that brings me to, you know, eventually, like got better. You know, I learned the language, and I got better at my study, and I graduated, and bachelor degree and I plan to move to a different state, and pursue a doctorate degree in pharmacy. And so it didn't hit me until much like, like, you know, a decade later, but when, you know, you just suppress all of that, I think, deep down. And then a decade later, I was, I was in graduate school for my doctorate degree, and I was engaged, and everything was fine, but I would just miss it, roll. And one day, my best friend was asking me to shoot your makeup off comet, like she wished you'd have a relationship like mine. And I was like, it wasn't that great. I don't know what you're talking about, you know, coping mechanism immediately kidding. I'm probably to have coffee, you know, and probably novel, maybe more normal for guy, but I have it. And it was stupid. Today, I'm very grateful that my best friend would just know when I'm bullshitting. And just look at me and ask very honestly, you know, why would I think that, and I was like, Well, I was miserable. And I'm just very exhausting to do everything perfectly, I have to go to school and go to work part time, and also taking care of a lot of things in, in the house, and it was exhausting. And, um, and then it was like, you know, it just a time that I would just open up and tell her about my past about how I got into unhealthy relationship. And I hate it myself, basically, I just think I don't deserve anything. Now just waiting for bad karma to return to this another shoulder job, because I felt like I was just a terrible being. And it was a beautiful moment of vulnerability, because she also opened up and shared about her own past. And it made me realise that we both were adamant about each other happiness. And at the time, I didn't believe it. It took me a few months later, when I was like, driving along and have some time for myself to think. And that's when I guess that's when the Epiphany sort of come to me. If I switch plays with my best friend, I would never even thought to consider her anything less, or to even think of her anything less. So I realised I was too hard on myself. And that started to forgive whatever mistake I make in the past. And that self forgiveness was actually what kickstart my whole spiritual journey. One of myself forgive, and it was just really this relief, you know, not carrying that burden anymore. But also that this make clarity of life, okay, I'm not really happy in my life, and just look back to see what I really want and what I don't. So I broke off the engagement. I finished my degree because I do like medicine, and going forward, and after that, I found my teacher Yeah,

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well I wanted to ask you, so I want to ask you two things. First, this transition when you had that moment, that conversation with your friend, and you realised that your realisation that you had, was that a short, I mean, it didn't happen in a short amount of time, or did it take you a long time to process it until you reach that thing? Or was it one of those moments or days that you say, Oh, my God, I have. Everything is so different now in in my outlook.

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I think everybody's journey is a little bit different. For me personally, my journey is gradual, like, for a whole decade, from the time that I immigrate to the US to the time that you know, to the time that I had that conversation with my friend, is a decade, so in the whole decade, it was just like, suppressing whatever emotion and just move on and do whatever tasks, so it's more of the, it's very common with like, high achiever. So just like, regardless of what I feeling, I just have to have a goal in mind and just go and achieve it. And just not really processing a lot of emotion is more like a surprise. And when it with my friend, even with the conversations, it was so much easier to to feel love and compassion for my friend compared to myself. And it took me literally, I would say it was a few months, few months later. So I guess I would just something in that conversation that would just this vulnerability to know that I wasn't alone, like I wasn't, you know, like, everybody makes some kind of mistake. And then I also so I wasn't alone. And it took that. I guess it took us the military in my life at that time also, and that few months later, when I have a moment to breathe big myself. And that's when the best when the inside cam. So I was a gradual process.

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Yes. Thank you. You answered my question. So tell me define about those. When you started, then this spiritual journey or you're looking within us, you said, what were the first steps in that journey? How did it look like? Did you have?

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Were you a spiritual person before that? Did you have any? You know, thoughts or questions about that? Because it's interesting. When we say I begin a journey, I'm always interested to find what was going on before the journey began.

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So I think in Vietnam, is a culture is very spiritual in the first place. So but it wasn't like, more about yourself. But in Vietnam culture is very spiritual. And like, we discuss spirituality, like 100% of enemies have ancestor ship, and we always believe in something beyond here. So we believe in ancestor. So I grew up Catholic. And then when I go to college, I became agnostic. I found out and I first I first I was become atheist, just taking so many ancient history and civilizations. Wow, religion, okay. And then I become agnostic, because of the culture. And so it was. So I guess, like, there's a way that that element of spirituality. So my attorneys, I think, what helped me the most gonna be awareness, like, just this awareness that okay, I'm not very happy. And once once, I think once I'm aware of a emotion or a problem, then I will start thinking about how to find a solution for it. But I didn't have any kind of practice to actually start anything with the journey, no.

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And show during your journey. How long did it take you to meet your teacher? Because if I'm not if I understand correctly, he goes, he a very big change in your journey.

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Yeah, yeah, he changed my life. Um, I would say that my journey started with myself first, with the self forgiveness was. So first, like the most beginning element is going to be awareness. And then after that, when I make a decision to say, forgive, forgive myself, then that really kick started a lot of things that really take up a lot of things. So after the self forgiveness there is like, I guess, like a few months, where I really look into myself to see like, what am I, you know, like who I was anymore. And I, I found I was completely lost, I have no idea who I was anymore. I didn't know what extra exactly what I wanted and what I actually was a frail. And so a few months later, that's when I stumbled across. But I always knew that at the time, I wanted to learn meditation, because I always heard about meditation benefit. And for three years, I tried it, and I never succeeded. I just fell straight asleep.

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exhausting,

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I want to ask you about what you just said about succeed. Because I suppose you hear that often it's, it's difficult to succeed in a way as far as I understand it, because it is not something tangible that you can say that, okay, if I perceive that, it's something towards you something that you don't really know what it is,

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right, I think I think at the time, um, so for all the three years, you know, even when I was miserable, I would just, I would like to try meditation to get to some kind of peace. And it was just like this benefit I've been talking about. So for me, it was like, I want to try meditation. But I did, I don't know how it done. And I tried, I look at you know, YouTube tutorial and everything. And I could go straight to sleep every time I try, because I was so tired from my workload of the day. So back to the transition. So I stumbled upon like a very, like, two minute interview of Huffington Post, with my teacher, and he was talking about, you can meditate anytime, anywhere, and and it was just something like, and so I actually have to track like, I have to, like do research to see like, who this monk was, and everything. And it took me two weeks to figure it out. And luckily, he does have like, a lot of online classes make community so I was able to take classes and practice meditation. So I will say, it's really, like the saying from Lao Tzu is very true. Like, when the student is ready, the teacher would appear. So I did not get a lot of things like I when I was trying to get more into spirituality. I read books from Dalai Lama, I could totally, it was just dry for me, I just didn't get it. Just like, yeah, I mean, I guess logically, I kind of get it, but I don't really get it. Like, I don't really understand it. So it was very dry. It took my teacher for me to understand a lot of the wisdom and to understand how to do meditation, and it was the end goal wasn't it wasn't inner peace. It wasn't Zen is and it's nothing like that. So when actually practices, the experience is nothing then nothing. So

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that's why I was asking you earlier about the success this experience that you know, it is written and many of us read that there is this experience that can be attained or a state or

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I will say for meditation, the the, I guess sometime when you can have like a very good experience in the beginning, like when your mind is already in chaos. And suddenly it's like settle down. So it's good. Like, it's like a very noticeable thing. Before After you practice for a while you kind of don't have that kind of blissful state of bends. But for me, it said that the focus is more subtle. So you will see is more when challenging time comes up. And if you keep up with the practice, you can see how like I when that happens. So after I was in my practice for at least a year, and I was starting my job, and it was very stressful in retail. And also my family also was in chaos. So everything is in chaos in my life. Um, but even through that, there's that sense of peace, there is that sense of groundedness that is very palpable that I can feel it, and it's not. And I realise not everybody feel it. And it was all fine to my practice of not losing myself. So the meditation practice really helped to increase the awareness and maintain that awareness. So you know it just like when you brush your teeth eat every day, you know, it doesn't make a difference if you do it one day, but if you do it every single day, then it's really like a snowball effect. So just especially is the effect will show the most clear when challenging tasks comes out when everything is in chaos, and you don't lose that sense of self. And that's how my meditation practice how

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Yeah, would it be accurate to say, what you just

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gave me as your description would be accurate to describe it as being in control of your emotional state, rather than a difficult situation? As you said? Is that what you mean? Or is it something completely different?

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Not exactly controlling it, because you letting it more like you let it go and do is more of increasing the awareness of Sure. So it's, I think it's a very common analogy in meditation and Buddhism, like, once you, when when we're in the river, we just get swept away with it, we get overwhelmed with it. But when we see the river, where we outside of it, then we're not being get swept away with it. So very similar with thoughts and emotions. When I'm not being overwhelmed by it, you know, I don't like I just see that, that awareness to help me to seeing them, I don't control them, they still come, you know, the first few come, I still feel angry, I still feel frustrated, I still feel anxious and that kind of stuff. But the intensity is much less and is that awareness, just help for the emotion don't take over me. Like it's just like, like the anger looked at rugby. And I would just lost it. So So I guess in some part, yeah, I do kind of have some control. But you know, take the driver's seat back, but you're not like I'm not like, try to control what I actually feel it just more naturally,

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I realised the moment you started giving your answer. I realised that using the word control was a mistake. I didn't. It was not. Yes, it was not what I meant, but it sounds like something something else. So thank you for your answer. It was exactly made me realise what what you mean? Can I ask you? So from going through this transition yourself? And with this learnings and realisations? How did you then transition into starting to teach that to people or want to help people with their own.

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So I do not teach meditation, okay, because I believe, you know, from my experience, people should find authentic master with true lineage and go follow certain paths, because that's much more structure much more, they are the true master, and they understand much deeper knowledge. I can point out some practice that I do every day, but I don't I don't teach meditation, I don't have that depth of knowledge and experience to teach that and that is, that is not authentic for me to do. But yeah, I teach meditation because I practices for years now. So I so during that time, when I was when I was having a lot of chaos, when I had my full time job as a pharmacist, then it was so stressful is one of the top 10 us profession with high suicide rate. So it was it was very stressful. And I lost, I lost some of my colleagues and professor to it. And my family at the time was also we have we have a having a lot of complex, so that was chaos. So during that chaos time, I had that sense of peace. And I had that sense of not lost, like the sense of self is strong, like I even during argument or conflict with my family. Like, like I still have my own boundary, I still know myself. And I find that very precious, like this is a very good feeling. It's not like it's not like you're jumping up for joy or anything like that. It's not that kind of excitement, but that's kind of quite calm groundedness and I find that I hope I will just come out of the wish that I hope everybody feels like that. I hope everybody has that kind of sense of clarity, have not lost anymore. And so that started my passion side project to just help other people to basically a lot of people have very similar, not exactly the same situation with me, but very similar feeling of, you know, being miserable before and not knowing what we're missing, and just want to feel better, but don't know what exactly they're missing. And is most of the time is the confusion is most of the time is when we already lost or Yeah, we just get lost in the busy life of achieving everything and checking all the boxes and just leaving for living for everybody else. And so I will start helping with other people with that one because I really one of my strengths is I can listen to their story, their behaviour, and I can point out their thought patterns. And I can pinpoint the thought patterns of how they get to that point. And why they get to that point is, it's like it's most like you now you have like a big picture. So like, okay, so so then you can shift it, like, once we aware of the thought pattern, we can realise, okay, I don't really I don't really want that pattern, I want to shift it and you can. And so that was just that process, but I help people to look at how they get to this point, and why they get to that point. And then to help them also to shift it to see a different perspective. And that's all it comes down to it's like our live, we run through so much with our perception, what our perception, we just think differently, we make different decision. And once that change, our whole life will change. So I was helping Paul, we start from the very root of things that perceptions

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to show, right. And it's the best place to start. Because if you start anywhere else, you're living the the root cause of anything, it's it's not a long lasting change if you change it further down the chain. So we say I wanted to, you mentioned earlier on about being authentic, or a few said that about meditation. And actually, that's I wanted to ask you, your thoughts, there were something that I read on your website, and I will quote, a quote, you'll need it. Because it really resonates with me, you say by living my truth, I inspire others to start their own transformation. So I want your your comment on that. And

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yes, so once I simply just truly live for who I am. And I think it's really come with the process of discovering who you are. So once I came to that, and I'm just living day to day mode, a lot of my close friends, people outside would not notice anything different, but close circle, they will notice that this kind of glow like this is genuine happiness and genuine joy that flow. And they were like, Yeah, what do you doing differently. And also, they would just inspire because it was for me, like I naturally very brutally plant already. But once I have the one say once I went through this process, my boundary become stronger. Like I know what I want and what I did, but also my automatic relationship. If with everybody improve, like I become much more open, more vulnerable. But also, it was just such a strange balance, like at once you are both open and vulnerable. But also another time that you're very, like I was very short, like very grounded and very calm. And people can just feel it, people can just like, we just feel like things are different, that everything is come out like it's very sincere and very genuine. And then we just, you know, and I think that's a beautiful thing about human being like, once I'm open and very vulnerable. With my close circle, they also fairly become the same and they will start to saying, uh, yeah, I was miserable. I don't know what I want to do with my life. I wish I knew what I want to do something different. But I don't know why that, you know, like, all of this starts to come out. And it will just a very easy to say oh yeah, you just have to, you know, figuring out you know, this pattern then how you get to this point. And so that's where like help inspire people to go down the same path of rediscover themselves also to reconnecting with what they have forgotten about themselves. So yeah, like when you just live authentically, everybody would around you will feel it will actually feel it, even though it's not something tangible but People will notice, people notice. And it's really an opportunity for them to be the same. Because once once, I think, I think we all have this experience, like when somebody we're in the present, I'm somebody that's so comfortable being themselves, they don't have to put up packets or you know, like, pretend to be anything else they can be themselves. And that's, that's very appreciated by a lot of people that they don't have to do or be or pretend anything, they just made themselves with any emotional state that they in. And that's, that's good.

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So one of the most liberating things, I believe, it does require a level of being able to accept that being vulnerable. And because many of us have been taught otherwise, that showing vulnerabilities is a weakness, which, and similar with authenticity, if your authenticity is not, does not fit within a structure, or a box, or a set of rules.

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Many people have been programmed to consider that unnatural, or I'm weird, or I'm gay. And they realise that there's nothing wrong with that the wrong thing is really to blend in with everyone and lose your own individual individuality and who you really are inside inside your, your, your soul inside you your being. When you express that, of course, it other people see something, maybe they can't explain it, but it is something very attractive, or inspiring, if you want.

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Yeah, I think it is human nature, because we do want to belong. So we would do anything that would belong, it just it just how we are wired to survive. It's just human nature. But I think for everybody that going through the process of knowing who they are, or rediscovering who they are, they the side effect of it is naturally you have more compassion. Because once we see ourselves, and we are also very dynamic being, you know, we have many different side of us, and not all of them are pretty. And well, we just say that and ourselves and we accepting it is so much easier to see other people are also dynamic and also complicated thing. And also, they also just want the good best thing for that, you know, everybody just trying to do the best. And then we'll just this acceptance and compassion and just very non judgmental, like, once we open then we are open for other people also, and that hold the door for them to just be comfortable and to share. You know, so that's the part of the vulnerable with the right people. You know, because it's very easy to get hurt. And you know, so that's where good discernment come, you know, like, we need to have enough wisdom to have the discernment. But for most of the time in general, if we were someone that very genuinely open, is comfortable to be open ourselves, and we don't feel judged about it. That's that's the beauty of you know, I guess awareness or you know, when you go through this process, everybody feel the same way? Yeah.

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Tiffany, I wanted also to ask you about your happiness blueprint. So do you want to to explain to share that with me?

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Yes, yes, yes. So it's mostly about how to actually have like, what a happy fulfilling life will take up on and it's come down to basically four aspects of yourself in your life so first gonna be the most basic one is the anchor needs like a necessity needs like nobody's gonna think about happiness when they starving. So as long as we have this physical needs being met, it's not like we have to be living in a mansion. But we need to have this kind of security of you know, having like, we know we're not going to be go hungry. We know shelters, we know we have food and clothes for the day tomorrow. That's kind of basic security is needed for us to feel to for us to allow us to have space and freedom to explore more other things. So we need that basic one. So it's about basic needs to be met. And the next one is actually going to be our purpose or passions. And it's not like it's not like you know, the life purpose that we got. To be like a saviour, or is doesn't have to be one thing, it's sometime gonna be a lot of things that we interested about, it should be the hobby, it could be that we volunteer for something so, and that's give us meaning. So anything that give our life seven characters meaning life will be for example, I, for me, like, I don't have any dream of discovering cancer cure or anything great like that, or should I say the word, but I, I enjoy volunteering with Humane Society, like rescue dogs. So like, like little things in life that give us meaning. And that is what makes our life very meaningful. So that one, so that's can be perception, shame, but that also come up with our interest, or our natural, like, we usually like to do something in service or whatever. So that part of us, that's very purposeful, very meaningful. And we need that to feel sonica fulfilment, we don't just lash out or on Netflix, or like going shopping on Amazon and just give it out for charity. And that's going to bring us meaning no, we actually have to do something that align with both what we read, you know, one of the costs of gloss, we're close to our heart. And also, you know, something we'll find meaningful, that's usually help us does that one aspect of it. So that's to say, the third one is going to be relationship. And not just any kind of lecture, it doesn't matter, we have like 5000 friends on Facebook, so you don't count the one that is actually matter, like the one that actually make us feel supported. The one that we can be genuine and the one that we can be vulnerable and die, also give us that kind of strong network because nobody going to live alone, nobody got to make we all rely on somebody at some point. You know, just like in our childhood, we rely on our parents to take care of us. But you know, our daughter, we need companion we need other people. It's not necessarily that good was just like, a lot of women like myself used to fall victim to me for that, when am I so my commentary, you know, like, when, when I find true love, everything gonna be right and the word is not like that is this, you can have more than one but you need at least one relationship. fulfilling that you can be open to you can be feel supported emotionally. And that's given that security, it could be teacher, it could be friends, stuff like that. It's got to be human, a lot of people try to replace that with relationship with pets, or, I mean, they are good because you know, pet lovers. But there is this connection with another human being, of sharing the journey of just life. And that is necessary, that social connection is one that are not human being a social and social being, we need relationship to thrive. isolations unless it's like a specific choice, like so like, sometimes, like meditation Master, they go into mountains to be isolated, isolated for use in into this different I think, you know, I think I will make an argument of that, like, yes, they isolated but they're not actually alone. Right? They are connected to the teacher into the community and stuff like that they not like, completely cut out like yes, like cut off in their practice. It's such a choice, you know, like, nobody chose to be isolated. We're not. And this is a fourth one.

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The fourth one is the most important one is yourself, is your perception. It's yourself, if you we we are the centre of our own universe, because we drive everything. Every decision we make is coming out of our perception of ourselves and how we view the world and how we think the woods gonna work and out of our expectations. So we need that aspect. So that's gonna be like spiritual. We need to get out of that align. So basically, just like very cliche or whatever, like giftshop saying, you know, you need to be alive body, mind, heart and soul. Once all of that in alignment that your mind is good.

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There's nothing wrong with cliche if it is the truth. Absolutely great. Yeah, so

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yeah, so the soul part of yourself, alright. That's the biggest part. If we, if we usually when when something goes still, then that is like an opportunity for us to Look into ourselves, usually a challenging time comes, or anything like a breakup, or when we lost our job, like any of these crack in any of these other aspects where we don't have good relationship, or when we don't find meaning. Or when we, you know, the basically, it's really hard. It's just just just out mega, we're leaving clear. So we just need that kind of security. But everything I always like any kind of crack in any other aspect is usually is a window for us to go to that. So I portrayed those aspects like so goal. So the lessons one would be you, it's going to be the innermost circle. That's all just anything that's not working in us, it's always an opportunity to look into what's not working with ourselves, but something that we ignoring.

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Absolutely. differently, I would like to ask you also some quickfire questions to start wrapping things up. And my first one is, what does personal development mean to you?

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is continually being more aware of all aspects of myself? And how to be more aligned? Yeah.

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And let's say you could go back in time and meet your 18 year old self, or maybe your 16 year old self in your case, what's the one piece of advice you would give her?

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Now, I will say thank you. Keep going, keep going through hell. But yeah, thank you.

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So emerging from this conversation we had today defined, I'm always very big on giving the listeners some actionable items, something that they could take out of what we discussed and implement themselves show what's one actionable item you would give to the listener?

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I would say, the process is dead. I would encourage everyone to be brutally honest with themselves and have the courage to admit something that not working or not, and curiosity. You know, like, things may be better. So keep those two things in mind, honesty, courage and curiosity. And we're gonna take them far.

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Can you? Can you elaborate a bit when you say be brutally honest? Can you be a little bit more specific? Because it's, it sounds great. But it's not so easy, you know that people don't necessarily find it, there's a show how specifically, can someone be brutally honest, is there something that they can do to facilitate that?

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The honesty and the courage go hand in hand, and it's more about with yourself. So we tend to be in denial, a lot of things because when is not convenient, or we take a lot of work, and we don't want to do it. And it was just too hard, too difficult. We just don't want to deal with it. We tend to be in denial, we just tend to like just brush it aside. But the honestly come into when we actually admitting Okay, this is not working, or I'm miserable, or I'm missing something, and I need to figure it out, and don't sweep it under the rug and actually do the hard work. But it takes that honesty to admitting that. Okay, maybe I'm not feeling that well, you know, fairly miserable. So that's honestly they need to come Yeah, but if it courage, they take courage to face it. Just like it take courage for me to like, I thought I was running away from loneliness for a very long time, I just schedule my schedule, like pack, I would activity when other people as long as I don't spend my time time by myself, either at work or at school or something else. But I need to admit it, like, even when I'm surrounded by other people, even when I was in the right ship, I was very long way. And I cannot run away from myself. Like none of us. None of us can run away from ourselves.

44:19  
Many people have tried many of us, but it's impossible. Tiffany How can people connect with you and find out more about what you do.

44:32  
So more, everybody can go to my websites funky spiritualist.com I have a free guide of their four, seven steps to move on when things don't work out. And that will help introduce to like my framework, how shiftings the process, the thought patterns, and I have a blog, I only have one social media which is on Facebook. So if you're gonna follow me on Facebook That's it. I don't have any other social media.

45:02  
That's fine. More is not necessarily better in this case. No. I want to thank you very much for your time today and sharing your insights and your story with with me today. Tiffany. All the very best. Any last parting words?

45:22  
Oh, thank you. I have a great pleasure having him on the podcast. Very interesting. It's very nice to just share and be open and help people know like, you can do it, they're gonna do it is difficult, but you can do it and it's much more. I just wish everybody will find their own inner peace and their own joy. And I hope everybody will get to get that feeling. It's worth it. Thank you for listening. If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and rate it on Apple podcasts. And also share this episode with someone who you think will benefit from it. If you want to find out more about what I do and gain access to exclusive content, join my facebook group but for development mastery. The link is in the show notes or you can simply type beat dot L y slash PDM group and until next time, stand out don't fit in

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