#209 Consolidating the knowledge (Limiting Beliefs and our Reality)

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Agi Keramidas  0:05  
welcome to Personal Development mastery podcast where you will find both the inspiration to grow and the actions to implement towards your next level. I am your host ID Keramidas. And I've been on a journey of personal development and self mastery for six years now. And my mission is to inspire you to stand out and take action towards living your best life. In this podcast, I invite myself inside the minds of authors, thought leaders, entrepreneurs, exceptional people who will inspire you to improve your life and also give you actions you can take and implement. So on my ongoing journey of the podcast on Thursdays episodes are now focused on consolidation. Repetition is the mother of all learning, as they say. So instead of adding more knowledge, I revisit the previous episodes and consolidate the wisdom imparted by my guests. In today's episode, the topic is beliefs, our beliefs in particular, our limiting beliefs, how they determine our reality, and how to change them. I revisit four of the previous episodes and share the wisdom of my guests, Rob Scott, Sophia vasiliou, Steven Doron, and Nicole lane. And the first one we will listen to is Rob Scott. Rob is a master level mindset coach. And he has taught for companies like mind violet, in our conversation robe, spoke of beliefs using the analogy of the lens, like the lens of our glasses, and how important it is to look at our beliefs rather than through them. Sure, let's listen to Rob's code.

Rob Scott  2:13  
Yeah, so so it's the way I usually share that is that there's two functions of a lens. And most of us are only aware of one of them, right? So and I literally just start from the very beginning, I'm talking about lenses, like, your glasses, right? Like you're holding on to contact lenses. If people don't wear glasses, they've certainly looked through a microscope or a telescope, right? The function of a lens that we're all aware of is it alters what we see. Right? It changes what we see. And the right lens can alter it in a way that's really helpful, right? My glasses are definitely a big help to me. But if I were to just put randomly any glasses on, or I were to put many glasses on, right, all of a sudden, I can't see very well, right? Now, that's interesting, right? So lenses alter what we see, that's a really important concept to get. The second concept that most people don't think about is that lenses are built to be invisible, right, they're not built to be considered, they're actually built to be looked through and kind of forgotten, right, so while I'm wearing my glasses, I don't really consider my glasses ever I just be bought through the world, dealing with this altered thing. So much so that if I wore rose coloured glasses, quite literally, and the beginning, I might notice that it's different, but eventually that would become normalised to me like it just I wouldn't consider that the world was any other way. And in fact, if I really didn't know, I was wearing rose coloured glasses. I wouldn't know any other colours other than, you know, the rose tent that I'm looking through. Well, the analogy is that our beliefs and our thinking is very much like that, right? Our thoughts and our beliefs alter our perception in a in a deeply meaningful way. But they too are built to be invisible. Right? We take them on to be the truth of the situation. So if I take on a belief about politics, right, and I and I don't know, I can't see that. It's my belief, I'm actually looking through the lens of it. I only see the truth of that perspective, right. And so if that's a limit, like I'm not enough, or I don't like money, or whatever those things are, I'm now being altered by that, but I'm not considering it as only a certain lenses that I could be wearing. It seems like truth, just like this seems like my real vision, once I forget about my glasses, right? So the fundamental shift is to actually be able to take off the lenses, the beliefs that you're holding, that are holding you back, and actually look at them and shine them up or throw them away, put on better ones, like get to the right lenses that are the most useful that most helpful to you, that are not delusional, that don't get you to a place that's like, you know, saying I am a millionaire. I'm a millionaire. I'm a millionaire, when you're not is delusional. That's not helpful. But saying, I love growing my money and I love you know, showing up so that I can make money might be really useful. Right? So what's the right lens, the important lens to put on? So it's not just about any old affirmation. It's about taking on and really taking in to your sense of self and your beliefs. The right lenses that are good, and ultimately growing the meta skill of being able to see lenses. So back to glasses for a second, I would consider these lenses as soon as there was raindrops on them, right, that would make me aware of my lenses, and I'd have to take them off and clean them to put them back on. Or if I had scratches in my lenses, I would know that I would have to go get new glasses, right, but with our beliefs, because they're so hard to see, we often don't, we don't notice the scratches and we end up with really messed up glasses that we're looking through on the world. And through that we self sabotage we hold ourselves back, we live very limited sheltered, often very safe lives. But the world isn't as dangerous in the same ways that it used to be. So we've taken on all these safety protection mechanisms that are really holding us back to what's deeply possible for us.

Agi Keramidas  5:51  
Then next one, we we listened from a chauffeur vasiliou, who was featured on episode 157. Sophia is a healer certified psyche practitioners and a shaman have been worked in Peru with the Ayahuasca foundation for over three years, in our conversation, see discussed how our beliefs and perceptions create our reality. And he said that the perception of reality is more important in our experience that what is actually there. Let's listen to Sofia describe this.

Sophia Vasiliou 6:36  
I was attending a lecture by Dr. Bruce Lipton, last year or so. And he was showing a paper from modern psychology journal, which said, you know, we used to think that seeing is believing. But now research is really showing that believing is seeing. And the perception of reality is more important in our experience than what's actually there. And, you know, for me, that was just mind blowing. You know, with the psyche work that I do, which is about reprogramming the subconscious beliefs, you know, I understood that, but just hearing it in that way, was just in a real wow moment, you know, like that powerful. And guess one way of explaining it would be you two people having you know, a similar experience, you know, one's afraid of dogs, and one loves dogs. And a barking dog runs up towards them. Now, one goes into a terror response, and one goes into a growth and happiness response. Now, there's nothing different there except their perception of what that dog is. And yet, they're having a completely different physiological experience, you know, they've gone into fight or flight or into growth and repair, one's heart is completely open one is shutting down their immune system and getting blood to their limbs to run. And so actually triggering, you know, small DNA changes. Because environment not safe need to do X, Y, and Zed to make me stronger. And so you know, the cognitive functions shift, and so their decision making will be instinctual rather than creative. And there's no difference between what's happening and the external perspective. So even though the outside reality can be exactly the same, your perceptions completely changed the event. And, again, this is where we realise every, you know, many people say, you know, oh, you're not the centre of the universe, you really are the centre of your universe. Because your perceptions filter your reality completely. And so, you know, the way I see the world is completely different to anyone else. And no one else would exactly be able to understand the way I perceive this external reality. You know, it's like one person has red glasses on and someone else has blue, someone else has violet, you know, they'll all see roughly the same thing, but from a completely different colour range. And then when you change your belief, it's like you change from blue to red. Like whoa, I never knew the world could look like that or be like that, because it's always been always been blue.

Agi Keramidas  9:39  
The next one of my guests that we will listen from is Steven Doran, who was featured on episode 69. Steven is a peak performance coach and NLP trainer and the author of the bestselling book burn the bullshit. And Steven discussed about our subject The view of reality and how our perception affects it.

Stephen Doran  10:08  
Of course, yeah, I mean, this is I'm smiling because you, you, you, you're saying exactly what I think. And I don't think any of us have a real idea of reality, because everybody just has a subjective view. And I heard an interesting example. And in a book I was reading recently, and the guy said, Who's speaking about drawing water from from a well? And is, in the book, he said, debate between a philosopher and a young, a young student and philosopher says, a young student who says, Have you ever drank water from the well, I'm not sure if you may be too young. And the student says, No, I did. Many years ago, from my nan's, well, in the summer, I remember the water was lovely and cool. And the philosopher said, well, actually, the water is the same temperature all year round. And it's 18 degrees from there well, so whether it's the winter, whether it's the summer, the water in the world stays exactly the same. But if you drink it in the winter, if it was warm, and if you drink it in the summer, if it was cold, and you said that the water is objective, you know, it doesn't change put the environment around, it's almost like the perceptions they change. And I just thought was a nice example of objectivity. And we do have this, every single thing in this world, we we ascribe meaning to it. And, and we don't interact with what's real, we interact with the means that we put on things. And this is where I, I'm very big on. If you're not happy with something, then you need to do one of two things, you need to either change what you do, or you need to change what you think and what it means you either change the process. So the way that you're dealing with something, or the things that you're doing, or you need to change the perception. So the way that you're looking at the thing that's bothering you. And I can't find many, or any examples where one of those two things isn't applicable, change your process, or change your perception.

Agi Keramidas  12:06  
And the last one from my guests that we will listen from today is Nicole lleno, who was featured on episode 112. Nicole is a business and success coach and the Reiki master, she calls herself a type a hippie. Nicole talked about our limiting beliefs in a different way, because she spoke about the emotions attached to them. So let's, let's listen to her describe this.

Nicole Laino  12:39  
Realising so there's a lot of talk about limiting beliefs, and, you know, we have limiting beliefs that hold us back. And while that is 100%, true, I became really obsessed with limiting beliefs and what you know, a few years ago, and working through them journaling, doing all the things that everybody does with limiting beliefs. And I couldn't really overcome some of them, some of them are easy. And then some of them, you know, you're doing affirmations, you're trying to turn them around, like that's kind of I think the misconception is that, you just need to flip it around. And the truth is, is that they and what my realisation over the last year was, was that it's not the belief. It's the emotion that's tied to the belief. And if you can dig out and you can make peace with that emotion, then you can change the belief, the belief is attached to nothing, then you've exposed it, you've made peace with the part that's glueing it to you. And once you do that you can truly be free of it.

Agi Keramidas  13:48  
I hope you found something valuable among these parts of the conversations, and also something actionable, something you can implement yourself. If you enjoyed this episode, I certainly intend to do more of them to condense the wisdom contained in these conversations and distil it in a way into actionable items that you can pick up and implement in order to change and grow and improve your life. But I would like your help. Tell me, what is your biggest challenge? What kind of content would you like to hear? Go to personaldevelopmentmasterypodcast.com and send me a message. 

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