#257 Snippets of wisdom: How to change your limiting beliefs.

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Agi Keramidas  0:05  
Welcome to Personal Development mastery podcast episode 257. This is the second snippets of wisdom episode and in these episodes, I will be selecting my favourite most insightful moments from previous episodes of the podcast. The snippet of wisdom I chose for today comes from one of the early episodes number 37. With Rob Scott, who is a master level mindset coach. The interview took place just a few months after I had started the podcast. And it felt like an epic conversation. We talked for two hours, and we recorded one hour and a half of it. It certainly is one of my favourite episodes. Actually, it was splitting into episodes because it was too long. And there were many impactful insights from that conversation. The snippet I chose to play for you today is one of the best descriptions I've heard about mindset, specifically about how our beliefs shape our reality. Rob used the analogy of a lens to describe it. I believe that the wisdom shared in this message will be very valuable to help you comprehend in a practical way in abstract concepts, such as limiting beliefs. I hope you find this snippet of wisdom as insightful as I have, without further ado, here it is.

Rob Scott  1:46  
There's two functions of a lens. And most of us are only aware of one of them, right? So and I literally just start from the very beginning of what I'm talking about lenses like your glasses, right? Like you are holding on to contact lenses. If people don't wear glasses, they've certainly looked through a microscope or a telescope, right? The function of a lens that we're all aware of is it alters what we see. Right? It changes what we see. And the right lens can alter it in a way that's really helpful, right? My glasses are definitely a big help to me. But if I were to just put randomly any glasses on, or I were to put many glasses on, right, all of a sudden, I can't see very well right now. That's interesting, right? So lenses alter what we see, that's a really important concept to get. The second concept that most people don't think about is that lenses are built to be invisible, right? They're not built to be considered, they're actually built to be looked through and kind of forgotten, right. So while I'm wearing my glasses, I don't really consider my glasses ever I just bebop through the world, dealing with this altered thing. So much so that if I wear rose coloured glasses, quite literally, and the beginning, I might notice that it's different, but eventually that would become normalised to me like it just I wouldn't consider that the world was any other way. And in fact, if I really didn't know, I was wearing rose coloured glasses, I wouldn't know any other colours other than, you know, the rose tent that I'm looking through. Well, the analogy is that our beliefs and our thinking is very much like that, right? Our thoughts and our beliefs alter our perception in a in a deeply meaningful way. But they too are built to be invisible. Right? We take them on to be the truth of the situation. So if I take on a belief about politics, right, and I and I don't know, I can't see that. It's my belief, I'm actually looking through the lens of it, I only see the truth of that perspective, right. And so if that's a limit, like I'm not enough, or I don't like money, or whatever those things are, I'm now being altered by that. But I'm not considering it as only a certain lens that I could be wearing. It seems like truth, just like this seems like my real vision, once I forget about my glasses, right? So the fundamental shift is to actually be able to take off the lenses, the beliefs that you're holding, that are holding you back, and actually look at them and shine them up or throw them away, put on better ones, like get to the right lenses that are the most useful that most helpful to you, that are not delusional, that don't get you to a place that's like, you know, saying I am a millionaire, I'm a millionaire. I'm a millionaire, when you're not is delusional, that's not helpful. But saying, I love growing my money and I love you know, showing up so that I can make money might be really useful. Right? So what's the right lens, the important lens to put on? So it's not just about any old affirmation, it's about taking on and really taking in to your sense of self and your beliefs, the right lenses that are good, and ultimately growing the meta skill of being able to see lenses so back to glasses for a second, I would consider these lenses as soon as there was raindrops on them, right? That would make me aware of my lenses and I'd have to take them off and clean them to put them back on. Or if I had scratches in my lenses, I would know that I would have to go get new glasses right? But with our beliefs, because they're so hard to see. We often don't we don't notice the scratches and we end up with really messed up glasses that we're looking through on the world. And through that we self sabotage, we hold ourselves back, we live very limited, sheltered, often very safe lives. But the world isn't as dangerous in the same ways that it used to be. So we've taken on all these safety protection mechanisms that are really holding us back to what's deeply possible for us.

Agi Keramidas  5:21  
I liked very much, you, you mentioned the contact lenses, and it's it's probably a different level altogether, because with the lens of the glasses, yes, normally you're not aware of it. But at some point, you might see the rim or something like that.

Rob Scott  5:36  
Or might bump into something, right? Yeah, you lay down on a pillow, and all of a sudden, you're like, Oh, I've got glasses on, right, you forget. And then the contact

Agi Keramidas  5:42  
lenses, you really goes completely. Without you realising it's

Rob Scott  5:49  
correct. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So

Agi Keramidas  5:53  
I suppose then, if we want to change our lenses, or limiting beliefs, in that sense, the first thing to do is to identify that we actually are wearing lenses that they do not serve us. And then yeah, from that

Rob Scott  6:07  
awareness itself can be curative. Right? So So sometimes, if you can see the lens, that alone breaks the spell of it, right. So that that is helpful, right? So just getting an oftentimes, because they're visible to us, this is why you sometimes need a coach or a therapist or somebody like that, to help you identify, what am I not seeing here? Like, what am I not getting? And sometimes just a laser coach can come in and go, Hey, man, like boop, boop, boop, or, Hey, lady, here's what's happening for you, and you go, ah, you know, and then it never has that same effect. Now, many of them are so deep, especially the ones down at the identity level, that just seeing them, it's, we actually need to go do some work, we need to actually change them in a little bit deeper way. And that's where some of these tools like we've mentioned, Shadow Work, you know, timeline therapy, doing things like story casting, you know, things like that are very powerful to shift profound limiting beliefs. But yeah, without doing that, you're left limited in ways that are, you're blind to, right that are that are holding back, which is maybe a little scary for some, but it also I hope is really exciting, right? Because there's, there's a more idealised version of you. That's possible, right? There's a version of you that can be more universally confident, more universally, ready to take action more focused, more happy, you know, has emotional mastery that you know, these persistent anxieties and worries and things that make us sad can really be transcended in a profound way, so that your base level way of being is just way more idealised?

Agi Keramidas  7:51  
Thank you for listening. You can find the full conversation in episodes 37 and 38. The link is in the show notes. If you got value from today's episode, and you'd be so kind, take a moment and leave me an apple podcasts or Spotify review, sharing how personal development mastery has made a difference to you today, and I will read it in the podcast

Agi Keramidas  8:20  
and until next time, stand out don't fit in!

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