#294 How to embrace your feminine energy, with Gul Sonmez.

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Gul Sonmez  0:00  
feminine energy can think of like water. But a water is something that is very strong, it can get rid of the mountains if it needs to. But at the same time, it's very gentle and calm if it needs to. And at the same time, it can even take a shape of a small cup if it needs to.

Agi Keramidas  0:21  
You're listening to personal development mastery, helping you take the simple actions to master personal development and create the life you gain for. I'm your host Keramidas A few years ago, I was unfulfilled and unmotivated. I felt I had lost my my sense of purpose and my life was merely passing by. Since then, I've been on a journey of personal development that has transformed every aspect of my life. My mission is simple to inspire you to take action towards a purposeful and fulfilling life. In this podcast, I invite myself inside the minds of remarkable entrepreneurs, authors, thought leaders, healers, spiritual teachers, people who share the wisdom from their life's journey. So if you're ready to find practical insights that you can implement right now, make sure you follow the podcast and get the episodes as soon as they are released. Today's episode is about your feminine energy, and how to improve your connection with it. Let's dive right in. Today, I'm delighted to be joined for the second time in the podcast by Gil Sonmez. Gil, you are an intuitive healer, a transformational coach and mindfulness trainers renowned for your ability to channel people's past traumas and buried memories. So they can overcome anxieties and self doubt and live aligned purposeful lives. You'll welcome to Personal Development mastery for the second time. It's such a pleasure to have you back with me.

Gul Sonmez  2:05  
Thank you. I'm super excited to be back.

Agi Keramidas  2:08  
So my and I would like to start just by giving a brief overview of our previous discussion, you know, just for for also for reference, I think it's useful. I know we had a brief chat before we started. So our previous conversation was in March 2021. So close to two years ago. Now it wasn't Episode 113, which seems to me like a very long time ago. And we talked many things really, we spoke about your background, your transition from your life in Turkey, the corporate background, you heard, and your transition, moving to Luxembourg and becoming a healer creating a coaching healing business. So between that time when we spoke almost two years ago, and now can you give me let's start with this, give me a brief, you know, cut up what has happened, what's been happening in your life journey in your healing in your business, and your mission.

Gul Sonmez  3:15  
A lot has changed, you know, especially right now probably are feeling the Earth energies are also changing very significantly. So the life is constant change. I think it's going to be two years now. Meantime, I celebrated my marriage with two weddings, one in Turkey, one in Italy. So I think I had a quite good two years, it was different celebrations, celebrations of flowers, which was very nice. My business grow beyond my expectations. When I think I talked to you first time, I was still working at my corporate job. And I was doing this as a separate so I was running together. But after that I go part time then I completely left my corporate job, which was by itself was a big spiritual journey for me because of the fears I had about being an entrepreneur and leaving this safe salary, leaving this big corporation name. And I really liked my job. So I also had no problems there. It was quite hard for me to leave that zone and totally owning this, this part. This was another significant change for me. And is as part of every physical symptom is an internal struggle. I wanted to say everything went amazing, but I think end of 2021 I started to have some struggles with my health related to my ovaries unfortunately, so related to my feminine energy. And I went to a deep healing journey in order to understand some concepts and some things a bit better. And I tried to share some of those things actually with the people I work with. It was another thing. And end of I think, end of March or May, when we first did the podcast together, I was already working at the corporate and they asked me to do mindfulness trainings. So actually those trainings born that year when all my teammates were stressed and burnout with the COVID, working from home situation. So we started to do it again, as a side thing, like a hobby to my employer, of course. But when I left that company, I started to give trainings back to them. So it just became a business that I really, really like and enjoy. So many things shifted

Agi Keramidas  5:36  
that spirit beautiful to hear the way that you described it. And there was one thing and say, it's going to be the topic of conversation. Also, you talked about the feminine energy and how, you know, through your own journey you have discovered, it's not just speaking from a theoretical point of view, you have lived these things that you know them very well. So that's, I would like it to be the topic of our conversation today, the feminine energy and even though you know, the conversation is for anyone to follow men and women, I would I would prefer if we focus our attention to the female listener, for today's show.

Agi Keramidas  6:29  
Let's start with the seat the basic things, okay, because we, we talked many times about femininity, feminine energy, and you know, masculinity and so on, without really knowing the depths of what it means. So if you were to give me like an explanation about, you know, feminine energy or the feminine qualities, can you give us some examples and explanations so that, first of all, we know exactly what we're going to talk about later. Yeah.

Gul Sonmez  7:02  
Yeah, obviously. So the way I, the way I see now is just feminine energy, you can think of like water, actually, I think it's a very good metaphor to explain what it is. But a water is something that is very strong, it can get rid of the mountains if it needs to, okay. But at the same time, it's very gentle and calm if it needs to. And at the same time, it can even take a shape of a small cup if it needs to. So this is actually this made the shift within me to understand what feminine energies because I was always taught feminine energy, maybe it's to be sexy, or maybe it is to be calm all the time. Or maybe it is to look young and beautiful. So there's so many attachments that we think what feminine energy is. And especially in corporate world, it's also seen a bit like hysterical if you're too feminine, or is too emotional. So this is why when I understand the metaphor of water is like wow, okay, this will feminine energies knows when to come down, but knows when to be strong.

Agi Keramidas  8:15  
What would be the the call metaphor for the masculine energy for the for the for the female? Is there the water? What what would be the, the other one?

Gul Sonmez  8:26  
Okay, I just we asked this, when I close my eyes, the first thing I see like sun, because Sun is also known as the divine masculine, right? Because it's always there to provide it is strong, you know, because we also females also have masculine qualities. Some of the masculine qualities are being strong, you know, the strength within you the power within you. So you can always rely on the sun because it's going to come and it's going to provide so I think sun,

Agi Keramidas  8:54  
that's a great answer. Thank you. It just came up to me as I wasn't planning to ask you, but the way you said about water, so let's come back to the water then. And can you describe to me how the qualities of water you mentioned the two of them, you know, it can be very strong, but also very gently at the same time, which of course it is, and also take the shape of copper vessel, anything that you put it in? So can you explain how these qualities of waters actually express themselves as female energy through a woman?

Gul Sonmez  9:34  
Yeah, yeah. It's actually the emotions. The first thing I think for me when I say what is feminine is actually intuition. So intuition is like you know, this inner knowing that you know, if something is good or bad for you, or you know that you have the answers your senses are telling you, they're sending you some messages, maybe your guides, maybe your inner voice, whatever you say, to those senses, they are giving You so for me feminine energies accepting this intuitive side of you. And we always thought, again, like that, like a wounded feminine side, you always thought intuition is like, ah, something's gonna come to your heart, it's always gonna be nice. No, sometimes intuition, something comes to you. And it's not easy, because it tells you to get out of your comfort zone. And you want to just ignore it, because, of course, you don't want to go through, everybody likes to stay in the comfort zone. So I just also realised when you really truly tune into your intuition, sometimes it may not be easy. However, all the times it brings you expansion. If you can go through that thing, it usually brings you expansion, it usually brings to you a better understanding of lined and more importantly, a bit more aligned life. So one thing is intuition, I already mentioned strength, there's so much strength in the feminine energy. And when I use the metaphor of water, wanting is all about flexibility. Because it's female, sometimes you want to control. Also, men do the same as well. But we want to control life, you want to control the outcome you want to control. And especially I realised that when I go through my own struggles, obviously, I want to control the outcome of my test results. Obviously, I'm attached to the outcome. And the the way feminine energy can really help is to practice a bit more real surrender, like letting the control goal, accepting all struggles are God given and there is a reason behind them accepting that rather than your physical body, there is something a bit more when you connect to the soul, it can help you to see different angles of life. So being flexible, does not mean that you're not strong, like but being flexible, is being more understanding. Those are the qualities actually that I really associate with feminine energy. And obviously creativity. Obviously, it's so you can create the life you want. You can create the desires you want. You can create babies, you can create businesses. So it's all about creativity as well. For

Agi Keramidas  12:20  
Thank you, I love this answer. And I like very much what you said about the the flexibility with this, which is its own kind of strength, because it is a great part of strength to be able to be flexible in the approach. And like you said about surrendering and letting go which is great explanation.

Gul Sonmez  12:46  
Which is the hardest one, it's very easy to speak about, it's really hard to practice it

Gul Sonmez  12:55  
is a different

Agi Keramidas  12:58  
set of leaves. And I think the stronger your connection with your intuition is maybe it makes it more easy to follow it rather than otherwise. Talking about that, I wanted to ask you How can one improve her connection with this feminine energy of them?

Gul Sonmez  13:24  
Yeah, very good question. So in my experience, when I work with I heavily work with woman and I also work heavily with myself. And last two years, the one of the main topics of my session was obviously feminine energy. So I see there are some practical things, obviously, you can do like meditation and journaling, and etc. But usually, we need to first realise why we're blocking it. Because we can really let it go once we understand it. And usually, we're not even aware of these connections. So usually the things that blocks the feminine energy is around the topics of shame, which we don't like to talk about because we feel shameful, or humiliation. Again, we don't like to talk about these topics. We like to talk about sadness, but shame and humiliation are a bit more vulnerable, and also unworthiness. So all these major emotions are directly affecting the sacral chakra affecting your feminine energy, especially in female body. And the fourth one is jealousy. So those emotions are very loaded. And usually we're not ready to look at what was the time where we blocked those emotions. What was the time that we feel shameful? So I think the most important thing for everyone who's listening is to do the realisation because when we don't do realisation we always have excuses. We all overwork, if you're overworking is a sign of blocks on the feminine energy, or over eating or over giving, so that we are keeping our body or soul or mind busy, rather than looking at okay, what is what is blocking me here. But I would highly recommend to look at the stories of shame and humiliation, these two are the biggest. And when you of course, realise those things, and then the healing starts, you need to understand what is the lesson, what is the gift and all this because all the struggles in our lives, there is a reason behind them. And we can really let go one thing when we understand how it really helped us to become who we are, rather than blame game you can be in the gentle observer. And usually in this story is there's someone to forgive. And usually there's more than someone, there are the people you need to forgive. And mostly we need to forgive ourselves. I think the biggest thing that I see as a block is to forgive ourselves because we're very judgmental, feminine is also very judgmental. So finding ways to constantly forgive yourself, constantly appreciate yourself, and then it brings it to today, okay, you forgive the past, you forgive yourself, but you need to embrace today. This is where the worthiness comes. Because even though you understand you let the shame go, you forgive these people, then you go to your daily life and you keep attacking yourself with negative inner voice. You keep telling how onward you are, you keep telling how ugly you are, how fat you are, how not good enough you are, it's all unworthiness, directly attacking the feminine energy. Then in that one, we need a bit more mindfulness techniques to rewire your mind. I would like to say easy recipe. Blog. But I think this is how we can really start healing our feminine nature.

Agi Keramidas  17:00  
Okay, I don't think there are easy recipes for the inner work is not it's not easy. If they if there was a magic pill to do the inner work, I think everyone would know about it, you spoke about those emotions or those stories that block them. Yeah, the connection with a feminine entity. And you mentioned specifically you said about the shame and humiliation or the stories. And I wanted to just clarify this. So do you mean events from the past that demonstrate it, or evoke the emotions of shame and humiliation or maybe you can give me an example of so I can understand that.

Gul Sonmez  17:49  
Yeah, for example, let me give you real examples from the sessions, of course, without using their name and, and should clarify who they are. But for example, when you you're elegant, you're a kid, you're at the school, and you're choosing in order to read the poetry or whatever. But something's happened on the last day they change and you're being taking and you feel really humiliated in front of your classmates. Or if for example, you were in love with this boy, and you thought he loved you as well. You're in you're 1314 years old, maybe you had your first kiss. And the second day you learn also call this talking about how smart you are, how you kiss on the first date, or they were and you immediately feel humiliation and shame. Or maybe you're you have siblings and you're just playing normal cards board game with your family. And your father is keep telling how awesome your brother is but how not good you are and you immediately take them on worthy. Nothing. So all these things usually they come from more childhoods, sometimes they come from more family patterns, actually, because sometimes I do a bit deeper healing than just the childhood. So this is why sometimes we also go to the ancestor level. So this collective kind of shame that you're carrying in your genes, because right now research shows us that epigenetics goes 14 generations so you really really feel the limitations or the pain of your ancestors. There is an amazing research I listen to on there. So they're doing a research on rats. Sorry for dreads, I didn't do the research. I just listened to research. So they're giving I think they're giving Yeah, electroshock like kind of a pain and a smell at the same time. They do it for the first generation of rats. So first generation of rats really go through this pain. Second generation of rats, they do nothing. Okay, the children of those rats, they'd go through nothing. Third generation of the rats, they just give the smell Okay, they don't give an electricity. Well, what they realise is when they give the smell, the red start to release stress on, there is nothing stressful, they're just smelling. So, so they're holding it. And it's true, I see it over and over in my session, sometimes we really hold this, this fear base or distress base emotions in our body, we don't even know where they're coming from. Or sometimes they're directly coming from your mother. So, so true. And, and there is also true that especially now, it's very easy to connect, which is amazing, but at the same time we carry more collective fears than, than others because now we read more about feminine energy and we have more understanding of what is, especially if you're on social media, you feel less worthy, because you always see, of course, everybody puts their best selves in there. And you keep thinking, Okay, it's just affecting your unworthiness more and more and more. So it's coming from different sources was mostly childhood.

Agi Keramidas  21:05  
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Gul Sonmez  22:53  
I think for resentment, that it's really, really important to understand the forgiveness work. So forgiveness work is unfortunately is a must in any kind of healing you do, because it's either us or others to forgive. For example, when I had this issues with my own health, and especially the times that my results came worse, because it's a thing that I need to follow up periodically. The times when it the results came to worst are actually the times where I felt anger. But usually I was angry at someone who knows like how they're dated to me kind of story and usually below anger. There's always a sort of shame. When we feel shameful. Usually we're angry. We of course like to blame other people. But usually they trigger a part of us that feel already shameful. So I think the biggest resentment is usually towards or self, the self forgiveness work is the key key here and for self forgiveness. The things that I really like is for me, I need to first write and put it on a piece of paper. Because there's so much better when you write but not one page. Okay? I am angry, I feel shameful. Okay, I didn't write three, four pages, you just realise you connect the dots because after one page when you're in the second or third page, you go to your subconscious mind. And you start to realise the topic is not what you think it is. And it's magical. Usually most of my clients resisted at first but then we realised the value of writing when I forced them. So this is one thing it really helps you to make the dots then obviously some meditations that you can use and there are tonnes of self forgiveness meditations we can also get one with this show that where you really either take yourself in front of you in your meditative states and tell all these things why you forgive yourself why you learn from this lesson because the guided meditations guides you to talk have this inner dialogue or may means the other person you need to bring and understand why you are ready to forgive this person. And the third thing I will say, some issues are easy to forgive. Okay? For example, I get angry at my colleague, maybe they trigger something I just turned eliminate, okay. But some people, they really hurt us, they really trigger something deeper than what we think they really triggered the wounds. Or maybe they even make those wounds. So those types of forgiveness obviously needs a bit more time and more care and more repetition. So the repetition is also key here, because we want like a pill, okay, I think this person in front of me, I told what I need to do, I cut the ties, I'm good today, two days later, I'm again feeling angry, it is normal. It is normal. So this is why forgiveness is a work that we need to do constantly. And we some people until we don't have the feeling anymore, when we don't feel like, okay, I can breathe. Now, you know, I don't feel this heaviness on me anymore. So I think with resentment, this type of forgiveness work is the best, and it's needed.

Agi Keramidas  26:15  
Thank you. And I remember that we talked about self forgiveness in our previous conversation. And thank you for bringing up this exercise, again, of writing pages. As you said, I remember, in our previous conversations, you said, right until your hand, your arm actually just hurts, right? So much of that. So it's it's great that you repeat it that and also what you said about the constant self forgiveness constantly forgive yourself. It's I think it's something that it's been coming out from this conversation so far. So I just wanted to, you know, bring it

Gul Sonmez  26:56  
up again. Because especially shame and humiliation when it happens in your life, especially what I see with the woman that I work with all of them, it's really easy to forgive others, they don't blame others so much the hard work is to forgive yourself. The hard work is to accept that okay, maybe it was a mistake on your side, or maybe you have nothing else to do is to really accept own and forgive that little girl within you forget that time of your life understand how this time of your life help I see. So forgiveness is a bit harder for women, and especially if they're brought up by perfectionist mothers, okay, the perfectionist, either voice is also always blaming and blaming and blaming. So you just you cannot do just forgiveness, you need to rewire the way you talk to yourself. Then on this one you can also use affirmations of we have for example, self or deformations, that when I was teaching this feminine energy class, it was five minutes affirmation of our self worth, they need to listen to every day, because they work overtime after some time your brain is rewired back the good thing about brain. So you cannot differentiate what is true or not, as long as you tell a belief to yourself over and over and over again, this is how information works, you start to believe in it. So this is also another thing it's very hard for woman because we're so used to be talking negative to ourselves is to change this inner dialogue.

Agi Keramidas  28:33  
I would also like to ask you the role of feminine energy in relation to the you know, connecting with the other gender with men or so can you tell me how that works or how someone can cultivate that?

Gul Sonmez  28:52  
Yeah, so actually, if you're female, what if you're male or female, it's not important because we both have both feminine and masculine energies. And we need a balance on those things. Because we don't want just a feminine energy in a female body because we need a healthy balance because masculine energy is being accountable. In order to get things done in order to be strong, you know, like we need both healthy feminine and masculine energies. But when you are a female and the female body, the more of course you lead with your feminine energy more, the more you let this feminine energy to lead your relationship, you will realise the easier the relationship flows, because we talked about like being obsessed about control. And let's face it in relationship we all want to control right? Either as a we all want to control so that it helps you to really let go and that being able to dance in the moment being able to flow in the moment because when you Accept yourself as a whole, then you have chance to accept your partner as a whole, rather than trying to change him. Rather than trying to make him better. It's all about accepting yourself so that you can also accept them as well. It's also about flexibility. It is true sometimes in relationships, we need flexibility. It's not giving your power away. It is partnership is companionship. So this side is also can help you significantly in the relationship, it helped me because with my husband, it was very hard in the beginning, because he's also a very strong character. He doesn't like to bend, I don't like to bend. So it was just Fire against fire. We were hitting each other. And I realised, okay, what universe is room Mr. It's, you know, it's an amazing room because the universe turns differently when the fire meets the water, or falls in love with water or something like that. This is when I understand, okay, but I need to leave this masculine qualities. And I need to go to a bit more my feminine qualities, because when I go there, I realise it's not being weak, I'm respected more, I can demand things more, I don't need to even demand they happen naturally. And sometimes our ego really, really okay, I need to do this. But your inner voice maybe says, yeah, just forgive, or maybe your inner voices or just rest, you know, we have all this little is recipes for what we need. And those is recipes also help the relationship a lot. This is this what I realised and I think. So when I was doing a soulmate meditation, I always ask for a partner who can who can help my transformation, who I can really evolve with. So from all the listeners, just make sure what you really desire. When you ask for a soulmate, a compatible soulmate who can really help you to transform, obviously, they're going to trigger your that,

Gul Sonmez  31:59  
obviously, they're going to show you your dark side. So you need to work on those issues so that you can evolve to be the better version of yourself.

Gul Sonmez  32:07  
So this was the only thing that I significantly add to my manifestation. And then I met this beautiful guy, and obviously he was triggering me right left and centre in order to be more feminine in the relationship. So this is why I think it's really, really important to let this energy to come. And it's okay, nobody has it immediately, I'm still learning is that life's journey, obviously letting go of control, trust and surrender is a life journey. But what I realised is, the more you add these things, the more your life becomes easier. I work with very high level managers, the more they let them feminine energy come even the business growth actually, in the most unexpected way. It helps with people with their children, because nobody likes to be controlled again. So it has so many benefits in different types of relationships.

Agi Keramidas  33:04  
Certainly, you know, she said earlier about the soulmate. And you remind me of something, I heard that many people when they think of soulmate, they think about unicorns and rainbows. As in fact, it's nothing like have a specific view, in order to evolve and grow spiritually, you will have to be challenged. And the more you want to grow, the more you have need to do that. So it was great that you shared it and like that. There was one other thing, one last thing that I want, you know, briefly to go through y'all before we start wrapping things up, and that was you know, is there an excess to this? Is this a point that the feminine energy can become too much or unhealthy is

Gul Sonmez  33:57  
oh, god amazing questions. Yes, it can becomes unhealthy. So I think it was the summer of 2021. Yes, summer 2021. We had a float in Luxembourg. So the house was floated, and one of her friends opened her space in Barcelona, and we're going to work from Barcelona. Okay. And I was just, you know, newlyweds and I was working on feminine energy. And I said, Okay, this month will be the month of feminine energy for me and I'm going to work on myself and my relationship is going to be amazing. And I've put everything into that that my relationship in order to more feminine. In one month, I almost break my marriage, and we were newlyweds and My poor husband. He was like whatever you're doing, can you just stop Can you just be normal? Because those who remember further just so powerful. When you're so obsessed with it, it's like a laser you can really burn it. And you're so I was just so upset. I'm gonna be you know, bring this divine feminine but it's not empowered, it's actually wounded feminine, because we always need to remember we need a balance, we need a balance of feminine and masculine and period. When we're so obsessed with it. It's like a laser, I'm gonna make sure that I am the best partner and love you. And you will feel so I almost burned it. I burned myself and I burn him. So 100% Yes, you should just think of it's all about balance. This is why I think having energy is also very strong, but you need to learn, you need to calm down. It was one of the mistakes I did.

Agi Keramidas  35:36  
Thank you for sharing that. I think it's the way you describe it. It's very relatable, or I think one can imagine what that might be, like, out of the conversation that we had, and I know that during throughout the conversation, you gave some practical exercises, especially the one with the three, four pages. That's the one that comes to mind immediately. But apart from that, is there any other actionable step that you would like to share with the listeners that something that they can do today, tomorrow and improve on this topic? Yeah, of course.

Gul Sonmez  36:17  
So the one thing I want to just really put it everyone, if you're sharing humiliation is coming through a very deep trauma, if you went through abuse, okay, if you if it's not coming, maybe it's not your teacher, but you had physical or very heavy mental or psychological abuse. First of all, I highly recommend to work with a professional, because those memories can be very heavy for someone to work on themselves. So on those places, we really need someone who can hold the space for us because I also work with some woman who went through abuse. And it is really hard to do it on your own, there's nothing wrong with you. But on those spaces, we want to hold the unit, someone who can hold the space, because when you go through that pain, it is really hard to come out if you're alone. So I want to put it out there because sometimes shame and humiliation comes through physical abuse. But if you're working not on that level, if you had normal kind of trauma, let's say, then the three things that can really help you is one, if you're not working with anyone always learn how to journal mindfully. Meaning that by asking questions by going too deep, or by going to the one level down, one level down, one level down, so that you don't just journal you go through a set of questions. And so I prepared those kinds of modules in order to actually help people so that they go down, they go down, they go down. But you can use very basic five why techniques you keep asking what is the worst or why five times and then the fifth one, you usually find out, this is one thing. And and also I can give one of the modules actually, maybe we can give the forgiveness model, which has all the sets of questions that can really help you to forgive someone so that you can understand what they mean by guided journaling. The other one is obviously meditation. In this one, you can listen many podcasts of this show, meditation and understanding. Maybe not extreme exercises, meditations. But there are so many different meditations, which can really help you so that you can really talk to your inner voice, you can really tune in and understand. And this is another thing I really, really recommend. And the third thing I think I mentioned, affirmations really work, we do them over a period of time, not once, not twice, we do them over a period of time. So you can also find those affirmations about self worth about feminine energy. So that you feel you rewire your brain, the more you listen to them. It's also another these are all the self things you can do to yourself. And especially for feminine energy also remembered feminine energy is also about respecting the body. It's not just connecting the soul. It's always mind, body and soul together. So all the activities that makes your body feel good and they can be different. Maybe it's eating healthy, maybe for some people it is going for a massage. Maybe for us just walking into nature. I always say make sure you have top five self care activities that ignites all your senses. And don't copy paste it because we're all different. For some people it is dance for some people. It is writing, we're all different. But think about all the senses that ignites all your senses so you can really pump with a button. So we didn't talk about the body but by these a bit Your body's your temple. So I would also recommend to do these kinds of things to help the body.

Agi Keramidas  40:07  
Thank you very much for this answer. I was taking notes while you say that that was a great, very actionable thing. So very much enjoyed listening to them a jewel? Where will you direct a listener who's fascinated by this conversation by you today and wants to find out more about you and your work?

Gul Sonmez  40:30  
Yeah, thank you so much. The best way to learn about me I write into to a lot and I shared newsletters. And there I really share on what I do I share the books, I share the tips I shared with Leonard, just because I realised some weeks everybody comes with the same problem, then I realise, okay, if those people and all my clients are like United Nations, they're all different religions, different backgrounds. But suddenly everybody comes to the issue of power, or everybody comes with a issue of forgiveness, or everybody has a fight with their partner, like everybody goes through the similar things. So I also write about the energies of the weekend, how to handle them, they're all in my newsletter. So if you opt in the giffy, given this show, you will automatically opt in to my newsletter. And there you can see everything about me. And also, you can follow me on Instagram.

Agi Keramidas  41:24  
You will, I want to thank you very much from from my heart for for this conversation that you had. And for everything that you shared with us today, I found it very valuable. I want to wish you all the very best carry on with your mission and helping women and it's so important, especially in this times that we live in. To what are your last parting words?

Gul Sonmez  41:51  
Yeah, first of all, thank you so much. I think I was so nervous and excited in order for us first podcast, I was just talking and talking and talking I has so much things to share. I think in this one, I was a bit calmer. So thank you for giving me a chance at the first place because I learned a lot from that podcast. To be honest. I still have people who are reaching out to me after this podcast saying that how much has resonated to them after two years. So first of all, thanks for your trust and inviting me back again. And I just want to say everyone so look, I know struggles are really hard when you go through them. And I'm not saying it because I don't have the reason I talked about soulmates because I had a messy divorce and and I realised I'm going to end up alone. The reason why I started healing, I had some struggles on my budget. So I understand the pain, okay. And when we go through the pain that time is hardest to surrender. The time especially it's harder to let this divine feminine and all these concepts because you're in pain. But what I witnessed with myself and everyone I work with there is no other way. Because pain is really real but staying there and suffering is a choice. And Buddha was 100% Right on saying this. So I just want to say everyone I understand the pain is real struggle is real, especially when we go through that heavy, heavy hard times. I've been there too. The reason I talk about soulmates is because of my divorce. In order to find love again, I need to work on myself. The reason I talk about feminine energy is again my health struggles. So I know the pain is real. But there is no way we can get out and rise when we just focus on the pain and those little things. Journaling meditation working on yourself really, really helps you so I hope it inspires you to start your own healing journey.

Agi Keramidas  43:54  
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Agi Keramidas  44:12  
Until next time, stand out don't fit in!