#312 The power of Just Feel Good and the secret to the life you’ve always wanted, with Andrew Kap.

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Andrew Kapp  0:00  
Don't view gratitude the way you've used it in the past as this broken, empty promise. And also don't view it as this required level of euphoria. You don't have to feel amazing, it just had to feel a little good.

Agi Keramidas  0:18  
You're listening to personal development mastery podcast, helping you take the simple actions to master personal development and create the life you gain for. I am your host, Agi Keramidas. And my mission is simple to inspire you to take action towards a purposeful and fulfilling life. In this podcast, I invite myself inside the minds of remarkable entrepreneurs, authors, thought leaders, spiritual teachers. So if you're ready to find practical insights that you can implement right now, make sure you follow the podcast and get the episodes as soon as they are released. In this episode, discover the incredible power of just feeling good. And we reveal three simple and effective methods to get you there to just feel good. Today, I'm delighted to speak with Andrew Kap, Andrew, you're best known for your perennial best selling the last law of attraction book you'll ever need to read, which has sold over 100,000 copies. And you and I spoke about that book previously on the podcast on episode 67. Since then, you realise that there is one type of reader you would never reach with that book. And that is the reader who is resistant to the actual term law of attraction. So in your new book, titled just feel good, you give readers just as much value and action steps for improving their lives without ever actually seen the term law of attraction. Andrew, welcome for the second time to personal development mastery. It's a real pleasure to speak with you today.

Andrew Kapp  2:06  
How are you? Thank you so much for having me. I know we've you know, our last conversation was was so much fun. And I could only imagine how fun this one's gonna be as well. So I'm really looking forward and seeing what we discovered together.

Agi Keramidas  2:18  
Indeed, it was fun and useful and very, very popular. It's consistently in the top most popular episodes of the podcast. So I think that says a lot. And it kind of puts a nice preface with for this conversation as well. So we will discuss today we will dive into the content of your new book. Just feel good. Before we do tell me a bit about that realisation you made about the the reader that will not read the book because that the term law of attraction, create some resistance within them.

Andrew Kapp  3:04  
Yeah, well, you know, it's interesting, because, um, with a title, like the last law of attraction book you'll ever need to read such a bold promise. You know, obviously, you've got to live up to it, you've got to have the goods. And that's why like, you know, anytime a five star review comes in, it's a huge compliment. And it's really validating. And also certainly whenever I hear from people and say, Hey, listen, I heard about your book because it was recommended to me by a friend or it was gifted to me or something like that. So people are spreading and sharing that book. But by that same token, a couple months back, I had a friend text me out of the blue. She actually texted me a photo of a new friend that she she met at a sales conference. And the friend was holding up like the the her device and the the audio book or the Kindle book of the law of attraction book. And she's like, look, I found someone and I'm like, I know the author. This is great. And when we came back to it a couple of weeks later, she told me more details. The person was like she loved the book. But when she was asked what she was reading, she was kind of embarrassed because it was about the law of attraction. And it made me realise Listen, the law of attraction, like when I say you love it or hate it, some people literally love it or hate it. Some people are really resistant, they think maybe it's a fad, maybe it's silly, maybe when the secret came out, they they interpreted it in such a way that it just didn't resonate with them. Therefore, there is a certain there's a certain subset of even my readers that love the book, but would never recommend it because it's about the law of attraction. So I thought to myself, listen, the whole reason I wrote that book and the whole reason I write anything, it's to ideally serve and ideally put in useful information that can be implemented out there, Mike, okay, let me challenge myself then to deliver the quality of this content and the usefulness and the insights from it. But see if I can do it without ever using the terms law of attraction, thereby making a more giftable book a more giftable option. That could be a star Like getting stuff around the holidays, or that could be a graduation present, or that can just you know, serve as a, as a replacement for a birthday card, I mean, birthday cards only a few dollars less these days. And that's what just feel good. It's about, it's about a really short, compact version of this message that is way more accessible to way more people to ideally serve a much wider reader base.

Speaker 2  5:23  
It is, I will agree, having read the book, recently, your new book just feel good, I will agree with how concisely gives the message and without, you know, I completely appreciate the law of attraction, some people might find it, even woowoo, that it is not like science, even though when we talked about some of those things in the previous episodes, but

Agi Keramidas  5:53  
I really enjoyed the book, Andrew and the title is just feel good, the secret to the life you've always wanted. So it's, it's, again, a very bold promise. And what I want to start our conversation with is something that you say that everything that most people have been taught about, happiness is backwards, because we are under the impression that we have to in order to be happy, we have to, or in order to feel good, we have to achieve something. But it's actually the other way around. So let's start with this. Tell me a bit about this backwards understanding of happiness that many, if not most, have.

Andrew Kapp  6:44  
Yeah, well, you know, when you look at human nature, and you look at, you know, economics, and you look at just the way we interact and, you know, at a core fundamental level, it's about surviving and replicating. I mean, it's a little bit of a crude way of putting it, but, but that's the essential, you know, the central aspect of human existence, you know, that's obviously not accounting for, you know, a sole purpose. You know, if you want to go down that road, it's not even counting for happiness or fulfilment, you want to go down that road, but just in terms of that, it's like, you know, survival replication. But as social creatures, we expand way past that we expand into trade, we expand into commerce. And whether it's intentional or unintentional, we've evolved to this point where there's almost, we're surrounded by programming that tells us we need the fancy car, in order to be happy, we need the trophy husband or the trophy wife, we need the big house, we need like the the new fashion clothes, we need, like, oh, whatever these things, we need that promotion, we need credibility, whatever these things might be, we're, we're we're constantly chasing something. And then when we get it, we realise we're just chasing something after something else. And there's never space of actual legitimate happiness and fulfilment within that, or there's rarely any space. And the really ironic thing about it is, if you could just feel happy, if you could just feel good. If you could just achieve a level of contentment and fulfilment, and ease and joy within the moment, within the things that you already have, like your health, and your heartbeat, and family or friends, or whatever might be going on. If you could just do that. It creates this space, it creates this opportunity, whether it's through your psychology, or the energetic universe, or whatever your beliefs are, it creates the vehicle by which you could much ease more easily get those things like the car and the House and the promotion. If only you focus more on feeling good without needing those things, those things will some of them will come way faster, some of them would come way easier. And some of them you might realise you don't even need to begin with and it was all just an illusion.

Agi Keramidas  8:56  
There was one your book gave me some insight, some aha moments when I was reading it. And I was telling you before we started recording that, despite the simple way that the topic is approached and they think simply it's also it was your intention. That's what you're saying that to prove that it is very simple to do just by feeling good. And one of the realisations I had when I was reading it was that you say that rather than feeling good for the sake of getting what we want we feel good for the sake of feeling good because it feels good. And that was one thing when I when I read it, it's something clicked because bottom line the reason why we we do anything or we want to achieve anything is because we want to feel good having a an expensive car on a throne. It's pointless, but driving it or showing it off, that makes us feel good. So why not feel good? Immediately without that? So it was it was a realisation, the way that that you put it bringing it back to the present moment there, well, I'm just thinking, what's the best direction to take it from here? Because there are so many things that I want to ask I will

Andrew Kapp  10:36  
tell you if I may I get like you touched on something really important just to expound on a little bit sexual critical part of the book of, you know, feeling good for the sake of getting what you want versus feeling good for the sake of feeling good. The reason I put that, and by the way, that chapter was the most difficult for me to write because I was going for simplicity, I'm going for simple, yet profound, because I want it to be a thing where you breeze through the book, and that there's no vocabulary issue, or there's no, you know, way of speaking or, or way of expressing where it's like, What's he talking about, I was trying to go like really basic and really direct. And the thing about, you know, feeling good for the sake of getting what you want, which of course, you know, you read my book, and you realise, oh, my God, all I have to do is feel good, and I get everything I want. And that's true. And that's okay to have that realisation. But there's a subtle little trick that people that misuse it, where they go from just knowing that it works that way, to actually gritting their teeth, and like trying to force good feelings in with this hyper awareness that they don't have the thing yet, meaning this focus on feeling good that they think that they're actually doing successfully, all they're really doing is reaffirming, psychologically or energetically, or whatever your beliefs are, they are reaffirming and re enforcing the reality that they don't have that thing, meaning they're going in the exact opposite direction that they intended, which is why I said rather than gritting your teeth and trying to force or shoehorn this new reality, just feel good for the sake of feeling good, because you're gonna get a win in that moment, because then you're actually enjoying your life. And then those things don't even like don't even worry about those things, they will come and they will come in really creative, really unbelievable, fun ways. But you just get in the moment, like push that aside, like, okay, Andrew says this works. And then kind of like I kind of get I kind of agree, now that I have that realisation. Let me just accept that that's true. Let me relax. Let me take my pedal my foot off the gas. Let me breathe. Let me take it in. And let me just enjoy this moment. Let me just sit and hear or feel my heartbeat and appreciate that. Let me think about, you know, even the paycheck that that, you know, we I want to be way higher. Let me appreciate the paycheck I have right now. And the things I've bought, let me look at the food I'm about to eat, and have genuine gratitude for how well it's going to taste. And all the people that went into preparing that food, or the truck drivers that transported the ingredients, all the stores that go through who knows what in order to get that process where I can just walk to the shelf and get it or better yet, we're at a point where I don't even have to go to the store, I just take out my phone and I push a couple buttons and boom, it shows up at my door. Let's enjoy that and appreciate that. And then it's like, oh, all of a sudden, when you're feeling good for the sake of feeling good. That's like wait a second, I just thought of a really cool way that I could find the exact car I want. I just thought of a really cool way of writing my profile for a dating app, that the other that you know, people look at my profile we're gonna respond to I just ran into somebody who had this really cool money making opportunity. And it only cost me 10 bucks to try it. Like these kinds of things unfold. There's no way of explaining it, there's no way that you can orchestrate it on your own. But it is orchestrated for you and then within cooperation of you when you engage in this process.

Agi Keramidas  13:58  
Thank you and I liked in your book, how you even though you offer some possible explanations of how just feeling good leads to you getting what you want, but you don't stick with that. And in the end, it doesn't really matter which what happens. And there is an element of mystery also, if you don't know what, how exactly it works, but before we go deeper into that and how you know and you also mentioned gratitude, which we're going to discuss in a moment. I want to get a comment from you with the woodshed a big roadblock from feeling good because most of us want to feel good and they even at some level know that it's beneficial to feel good however, we don't. So what is that number one roadblock? Prevent dinner's from feeling good, and what we can do about it.

Andrew Kapp  15:04  
So this is one of the few things that I bring up in both the last law of attraction book you'll ever need to read and just feel good. That's how important and significant this is, in my experience, which by the way, once you have that realisation, how powerfully things can improve for you, this roadblock is what I define as the ego. And I say it how I define it, because ego is like a psychological term that everyone has certain preconceived notions of so the when I say ego, it might not be the exact definition of the way other people seen it, whether it's personal development, or psychology or anything else, my definition of the ego and you can use any word for this is the understanding that there is a part of your mind that is only interested in one thing, and that is your survival. That means, you know, whatever's going on in your life, whatever money problems you might be having whatever relationship problems you're having, whatever even health problems you're having, your ego is scanning the terrain and saying, okay, my persons alive right now, therefore, any change to the status quo, even a possible perceived positive change, it's too much of an own an unknown, I can't risk my person getting, for example, getting rich and famous, because for all I know, as the ego, when they get famous, they might get a stalker, and that's a threat to our survival. For all I know, and they get rich, they're gonna have people coming out the woodwork trying to sue them for their home and their money, that's a threat to our survival. So your ego actually means well, it's not trying to hurt you. But it's also not interested in your comfort or your fulfilment, or your satisfaction or your happiness. Therefore, it's that piece of your mind that's really strong that when you start to try to do this, or you start to have confidence, it's going to be that nagging hint of doubt of like, Oh, I'm not doing it, right. Oh, it's not working, it's gonna be that voice in your head, that might might not even be obvious to you of, oh, I don't have to, like, you know, do a gratitude exercise today, I can skip it, I could just do it tomorrow, which then you say the next day and the next day, the next day. So this final roadblock is just as part of you as part of Your Beings part of your psychology, this part of of like everything you are, that is doing its part to serve you not realising that if you did have these things that you want, if you went in these directions, you'd be way happier. So to answer your question of like, well, how do we get around this? Well, the ego isn't the most powerful part of your mind, the most powerful part of your mind is your subconscious mind. And the way you bypass the ego to the subconscious mind, is you simply choose methods of feeling good, which I offer in either book, or you can find on my YouTube channel, or you can find anywhere like you know, you're not stuck with Andrew, if you want to find other ways of doing this, I'm not, I'm not the only you know, I'm not the only pizza place in town. But you will you want to do is you want to find a method that you can do for a couple minutes a day, that feels so good to you that it's hard to talk you out of it, because you look forward to it. That's the thing. You know, it's like, I've never seen someone I articulated this in the last little traction book you'll ever need to read in a different way. I never seen someone who loves ice cream that couldn't have a spoonful of ice cream every day. It's like, well, you love ice cream. And it's not a full carton, it's just one spoonful, like you tell someone that they could have a spoonful of their favourite ice cream every day, and there's gonna be no repercussions for their health they're in. And that's the goal of these feel good methods is like they're just, they're just a nice little spoonful of sweetness and good feeling that you can consume and enjoy and look forward to. And it doesn't feel like a chore. It doesn't feel like an obligation. It doesn't feel like a burden. It's a choice. It's a decision, it's something that you actually enjoy and want to include in your life. Therefore the ego can't as easily talk you out of it. Therefore you will do this with enough time and enough frequency and enough momentum that you'll then get the results, you then have your life experience that this does work. And then you'll keep doing it just based on that alone.

Agi Keramidas  18:54  
That's great. Absolutely. And I will bring the conversation back to gratitude, which you mentioned earlier. And of course, we talked about it in our previous conversation. I think it's inevitable when we talk about these things, gratitude is is going to appear in the conversation for sure. The thing with gratitude, and there is something in your book, and I will just read it the way that I read it. So you say that all you need to do in order to feel gratitude is think of things in your life that are good and simply appreciate them. So that sounds wonderful.

Speaker 2  19:39  
My question and I think with many people the challenge in using some kind of gratitude practice and we'll talk about a couple afterwards, because there are some amazing ones that you have. But I don't want to digress too much. Now. The challenge that many people face with gratitude is that If they can think of something they appreciate of, or they can write about it, but without actually having any emotional,

Agi Keramidas  20:12  
let's say response or vibration or something maths in that. So in other words, it just happened. I'm grateful for my heart that beats every day. But that is not really matching the vibration of that feeling of gratitude. And that's something that you do discuss in your book. And I think it's very important to, to understand that. So clarify this for us and, you know, relieve us of the burden that many have, you know, that I have to feel ecstatic, or I have to cry tears of gratitude for in order for this to work.

Andrew Kapp  20:51  
Yeah, and, you know, there's, there's a couple of little insidious roadblocks here that people don't first of all, I guarantee, I can guarantee you, even people that are on board with the law of attraction, equal people that are on board with with personal development, I mean, look at the name of this podcast, right? Even those people to a point are probably sick of hearing the word gratitude, because everyone says gratitude. And it's a very loaded word and a loaded term. And to a lot of people, and I've never said this before, to a lot of people, it represents failure. And the reason it represents failure to them is because they heard about gratitude, they heard all the promises attached, they tried to do it, and like you just articulated, they didn't get this amazing, ecstatic Wow, feeling. Or maybe they did the first time. And then the next day, they tried to do it. And it's almost like they were numb to it, which eight which added to their frustration, their uncertainty, their doubt. And then they went into a downward spiral. Thing about gratitude, like you would also tend to that here that you read from my book is, well, one Don't, don't view gratitude the way you've used it in the past as his broken, empty promise. And also don't view it as this required level of euphoria. You don't have to feel amazing, you just have to feel a little good. And if you can't feel a little good about your heartbeat, which really is a miracle, well, then we can go a more extreme direction, just make a list of things in your life that you have not even appreciate things that you have. And imagine they were taken away. So for example, right now, in this moment, somebody is listening to this, or watching this on a specific device, whatever that device is, think about all the things that you do with that device, you, you run your business, you check your email, maybe it's a phone, so you call people you text, you communicate with the world, you have access to everything, maybe of your dating apps. So it's the key to your love life. If someone went and stole that device from you, and you couldn't replace it for another month, how miserable would you be, knowing that it is there, then therefore easy to be at least a little grateful for like, you know what this device is awesome. The keyboard works, the internet works, I've got all the apps in front of me, my life is so much better, because I have access to these things, to say nothing of body parts. You know, I think everyone knows what it's like to stub their toe, and have maybe a painful toe for an afternoon. Like, you know, you break your toe, or you break your foot or your leg and you're on crutches for a couple of weeks or a couple of months. That just it's miserable. Think of like, be grateful for your healthy legs, be grateful for your spine, even if you have back pain, like so you can see how excited I get about this. What I'm actually doing here is I'm doing an unintentional gratitude Blitz, where I start going down a list of things to be grateful for, and you almost get caught up in it like it is if you actually not even trying to force a motion. But if you actually think about it intellectually and logically about the things in your life, it becomes really difficult to not even have a hint of gratitude. And all you need is a hint of appreciation, not a buckets worth or an oceans worth but just a hint, and you are on your way.

Agi Keramidas  24:01  
That's great. And that is very, as I said earlier, it's reassuring to do understand that and also that method if I can use that word of thinking how your life would be if you didn't have that the device or your or your vision or whatever it is. It's I find that very useful as a method to really express gratitude because we do have the tendency to take things for granted. Don't wait. I mean, with our health, we don't appreciate it many times until we're not healthy and then all of a sudden we miss it and the same with all these things. So I find this a very practical and useful way to increase or augment that feeling of gratitude just rather than just saying oh, I'm grateful for my you know, Mike Ah, if I didn't have my car, I wouldn't need to walk to take the bus today. It's great. So thank you for that reminder of the this exercise.

Andrew Kapp  25:11  
And real quick if I can argue like because you mentioned car, anyone who thinks that their car is horrible, like let's pretend it runs at least literally try to walk to work tomorrow, go walks work tomorrow instead. And like even though that car even the paint job doesn't look good. And even if the air conditioner doesn't work, like come on how you not grateful for that car, you try walking to work, you will love that car, which by the way, will then open the door to a new and better car for you and the money that you need to get it.

Agi Keramidas  25:40  
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Andrew Kapp  27:44  
Yeah, so anyone who's followed the law of attraction, and certainly probably any other modalities of thought, have have no doubt come upon the idea of like, okay, feel good and good things happen, therefore, feel bad, and bad things happen. Therefore, I am all sudden, hyper aware and hyper nervous about feeling bad. The thing about feeling bad about feeling bad is it's a downward spiral trap. And you got to remember, first of all, and they've done studies on this, like scientific studies that have demonstrated to them that positive thoughts and positive emotions are hundreds, if not 1000s of times more powerful than negative ones. Meaning, this is why I say you know, just feel good for five minutes a day. And that's going to be more than enough. Because then you know, the following week, you'll find yourself more naturally feeling good at other parts of the day without even trying, so you feel good more often, and you feel bad less often. But that feeling bad that occurs, it's an inevitable part of the human experience. Therefore, strategically, the worst thing you can do is judge yourself about it or worry that it's not working. Because again, if the positive thoughts and emotions are so much more powerful, you only need a certain concentrated period of time where you're just feeling even Okay, to account for that. So you don't have to worry about feeling bad. Don't avoid feeling bad, don't hide from feeling bad. Process your emotions, because your resistance to those negative emotions, which are inevitable, is the thing that compounds them. And that keeps them in your life experience and literally like keeps them in your body way longer than they even needed to be there. And you know, it's okay, we I know I've made that mistake before. And even me knowing this, I might make that mistake again. But I have a level of self awareness where I could remind myself like, Listen, I'm still doing this thing where I'm feeling good every single day. And that is more than enough and that's handling the momentum for me. So this is my word salad, long winded way of saying, feeling bad about feeling bad and hiding from feeling bad hiding from negative thoughts and emotions. It's a trap. Don't fall into it. Be okay with the fact that you are a human being in a three dimensional physical, imperfect experience and it's just going to happen and that doesn't mean In that you've screwed up, it means you are alive.

Agi Keramidas  30:04  
That's a great way to put it. So thank you for that. And so we'll talk about some of the actual ways that you're describing your book to feel good. And there are, well, there are many, but the one hour, you mentioned already that term gratitude blades, which is one of the, I really want to ask you about it, because it's a very simple, easy, and I believe, quite effective way to do any throw if you can just describe the method for us.

Andrew Kapp  30:43  
Absolutely. So I'm a huge proponent of taking this and me talking about this before the call, but you know, it's not enough to have information you've got to implement. So I'm a huge proponent of delivering ideas, methods, techniques, information in a way that is user friendly, is simple and is easy to implement. Because that's the whole point isn't to know it, the point is to you use it, you can have the the best, perfect workout that you know in the world. But if you're not actually working out, your body is not going to receive the benefit. So doesn't help to know it. So gratitude Blitz, with this understanding that simple, easy accessible is the way, all you're going to do is you're going to set a timer for one minute, more three minutes, five minutes, whatever it might be. And while that timer is ticking down, you're just going to think of things in your life to be grateful for. And you can do it around a theme, you can say, Okay, I'm just gonna think about things about my body. I'm gonna think about things about my relationship, about my business, about my job about the room that I'm in, I'm just going to look around, or I'm going to do a free for all and just think of anything. And the really cool thing about the gratitude Blitz is it's easy, especially like, you know, going back to what we said a couple minutes ago, when you remember that you don't have to be euphoric, you just have to feel a little good. And the really cool thing is not to put an expectation or requirement. But for the most part, when you pass 20 seconds, and you pass 40 seconds, and you start to get deeper into this, it's almost impossible to not feel better, as you think about all these things, even if you thought about them yesterday, even if you're like you do this gratitude Blitz the same thing every single day, even just talking about the same things, when you really think about it, why would you not be grateful for these things? So yeah, gratitude was just setting a timer, thinking of things to be grateful for and feeling good.

Agi Keramidas  32:28  
It's a great and I was doing that yesterday, this way, when I was reading that part of the book, and it was combined to you know, the thinking that what would happen if I didn't have that it really very quickly created a smile on my face. And actually, that's the other method that I wanted to discuss with you about you call it the feel good green. There, then, the understanding there is that and I think everyone would agree that you know, when we do feel less happy when we feel in a very positive state, a smile comes naturally in our face, without us needing to do it. The The important thing here is that, like our physiology and our emotional world are connected in such a way we can use it in the opposite direction. So if we force and I'm using that in quotes in quotations, if we force ourselves to smile, and keep it for a little while, that converting one inwardly into emotions of feeling good or feeling good, so it was, it's a great realisation that this works both ways. And I would like to hear your, your thoughts on this and as a method of how to do it.

Andrew Kapp  34:00  
Yeah, well, so it's interesting because I call it the feelgood grin. I'm again, you know, me I like since I want simple and easy and you know, user friendly and all these things. Part of that means memorable. So it also means like having an overly dramatic term for something really simple because when I say feel good grin, like you said, I just mean smile. And this method, it's almost like okay, when you're on your computer, and you type the letter K, K appears on the screen, and you type the letter D D computer appears on the screen. By the same token, because you smile in response to positive emotion so often, your body just like pushing a key and I didn't I didn't articulate it this way. In the book. I've never articulate this way before, but by intentionally physically smiling, even if you don't mean it, you are triggering like a keyboard like typing on a keyboard, biochemicals to go off that your body's like, Oh, it must be time to be happy, or at the very least, it must be time to be content or to be At ease, or to just not feel bad. And it's just a simple thing where it's like, okay, well, Andrew, what's the method? Well do me a favour, smile real quick, okay, I'm smiling, congratulations, you just did the Method. It's that simple. You know, so do it when you're maybe if there's something going on, you're stressed, and you wanna try to counteract that, or just do it out of the blue for no good reason, just smile and see what happens. And, again, you might feel it viscerally, or you might not, but either way, you're typing on your keyboard, so to speak, and you're sending the right messages and the right cues to your body, which will respond in kind in some way, whether you perceive it or not.

Speaker 2  35:37  
And then something changes if you have you smile and or green and hold it, maybe for a few seconds. There is something that says maybe for some people might be subtle for them to realise, but the more you become aware of your own body, you realise that it changes do you actually are perfectly capable of

Agi Keramidas  36:04  
invoking sound, we say the good, the good feeling, just by smiling, which is so so simple, but yet, you have to do it. If you remain frowning, frowning, or, then it won't, you have to actually do it. And it's so, so easy. There while you have many methods of feeling good, but the one that I heard really appreciate your sharing with us is you have your own personal favourite that you said you've been doing for years. And it's only five minutes and you do it every single day. So I would like you to share this practice or routine, if you want the ritual of feeling good in five minutes, I very much enjoyed the way that you presented it. And I think it is so simple and show effective.

Andrew Kapp  37:02  
Yeah, and, you know, keep in mind, any method I put in any of these books, I don't just say, Hey, this is a good method, do it and not do it, like I do all these things. But the one thing I do every single day, because again, when you have all these good options, I think of these as like ice cream flavours, you're still going to have your favourite, you can have the one that you want to go to that's that you want that spoonful of, for me, this just happens to be this one because it fits in with my schedule, it's easy to do, it's fun to do it, like a lot of things work for it. And what it basically do is I just I pull up my phone, I open up the recorder app, and I record a message of talking about all the things that I'm grateful for in my life. And I might talk and I only do it for a couple minutes, maybe I'll do it for one minute, maybe five or six minutes, you know, whatever, whatever I'm inspired to in that moment. Sometimes I will talk about things that I have currently, sometimes I'll talk about things that are on the way but I'll say them in the present tense. And all I'm doing is I'm recording and affirming this reality and feeling good. And then I actually take that message and I send it to my friend across the country who unkind he sends me his message every single day. And you know, sometimes he goes first, sometimes I go first, whoever goes first ends up inspiring the other person with their message. There's this built in social pressure and accountability, not that anyone requires it. I've just built that into my process. And I just have this fun dynamic way of every single day, articulating the things that I'm grateful for. Some people would probably prefer to write it by hand or to type it on a computer. And that's fine. It's all about what works for you specifically, for me, the easy thing, you know, I do enough typing. And, you know, I'm still not used to writing that my handle cramp. So for me, it's just easy to speak it out loud. And it's a lot of fun. And it just keeps me engaged. And yes, I've been doing it for I think well over five years at this point. And the amazing changes that I've experienced in my life and that my friend has had in his life. It's just it's wonderful. We've had a front row seat to each other's improvement improvements and an upward trajectory in our lives.

Agi Keramidas  39:02  
It's It's indeed very simple and easy to do and effective. I think the only difficulty is actually to do it or to and that's where the accountability that you have also is an added element to that hold yourself accountable want

Andrew Kapp  39:22  
to let my friend down. It's by the way, this can never be a commitment where like it feels like a weight or a burden. If that happens, then we we we both have a standing agreement and any either one of us can stop whenever we want. Like there's there's a level of commitment where if it feels too much of a burden than doing the opposite thing. But there is a level of pressure of I just don't want to let my friend down. So of course, at the very least I'll record a quick 30 to 60 seconds who can't do that. So there's there's always a way that it works.

Agi Keramidas  39:50  
Yeah, absolutely. It's very important. There is a Andrew one other thing that really caught my eye Attention. I underlined it like five times when I was reading it. And that was some misconception that many have about, you know, feeling good or gratitude or law of attraction or all those things and expecting a practice like that to miraculously miraculously change the life immediately it might happen. But more often than not, it doesn't have a like that. And there is a phrase that you you you have, which I'm going to read it verbatim as you have, because it was so beautiful and very insightful when I was reading it. And you say that feeling good is not like a hammer that you swing to shatter your problems. It's more like a paintbrush that you gently stroke, blending answers and solutions into your life so that your challenges fade away, rather than being shattered into pieces. And that's, for me, that was a very important phrase very important meaning there to understand. So give me your thoughts on that as well.

Andrew Kapp  41:14  
Yeah, and if I remember, right, that was in the chapter where I was talking about, you know, feeling good for the sake of getting what you want versus feeling good for the sake of feeling good. And, again, this comes down to human nature. And I mean, this in a loving way, humans are amazing. You know, I see nothing wrong with shortcuts, as long as you're not hurting anybody in the process of it, which is why I appreciate when people try to get shortcuts in something, because they're just trying to be efficient. They're being efficient with their energy and their time, or whatever else. And when I say that, so I appreciate the fact that people learn this information. And they want to shortcut their way to a result. And they're like, Okay, feeling good is like the superpower now, and I'm going to use it. And again, like I said, in the book, like, they're going to try to wield it like a hammer, they're going to try to attack their problems. They're going to try it. It's it's, it's in a negative context, they're at war, they don't realise that though. The problems are an offshoot of them. So therefore, they are at war within themselves when they're doing that, and I never articulate that way. So the reason I want to say, think of it like a paintbrush, rather than a hammer, is because this isn't about like, attacking it with all the good feelings. Because if you imagine yourself doing that, do you actually feel good? While you're doing that? Do you feel good? gritting your teeth? And snarling? Oh, I'm attacking your good field? No, you're not. But when you're painting, it's almost like a Bob Ross. You know, everyone remembers that show. It's like, I'm gonna paint a happy little tree. And so a happy little cloud. I'm painting these happy little thoughts and these broad strokes and these textures, these emotional textures of Yeah, I feel good about that. Yeah, that's great. You know what, I feel really euphoric, Oh, I feel kind of at ease. I feel just okay, I feel good. All these different palettes. And by doing that, you're almost repainting and remaking your life, where all the good things are the things that are prominent on that portrait that represents your life. And the negative stuff. It's not the negative stuff never happened. It's just you've painted over it. And you don't even see those colours anymore. You don't even see those images anymore, because they've been painted over. But it's more of an easygoing, relaxed, not judging yourself process, that, in my experience, it's not only efficient in getting the job done. But it's also highly efficient in making sure that you don't inadvertently get in your own way. Because again, we love short cuts, but sometimes, you know, they talk about, you know, who was it? Who, like, I'm forgetting the name of the person, but they had wax wings, and they went too close to the sun and the wings melted. Yes, yes. Icarus, thank you. It's like, you know, there's a way of doing this in a way of shortcutting it that's going to work. But then there's a way of shortcutting it where you were inadvertently actually judging yourself and reaffirming the reality that you don't have what you want. Yeah, don't smash this away like a hammer, stroke it and blend it away like a paintbrush.

Agi Keramidas  44:08  
Thank you. That's such a beautiful metaphor of describing it. And, Andrew, we've been talking all this time about how easy it is to just feel good and how beautiful things will happen. Just by just by doing that. And I would like because you do offer a during your book, you have a demonstration. So I would like to offer a demonstration to the listener right now just for a few seconds really and prove how easy it is just to feel good just in a few seconds. So do you want to guide us through something like that?

Andrew Kapp  44:46  
Absolutely. And let's let's make this a very unique episode in in your amazing catalogue here. And full disclosure I'm, I'm doing this off of inspiration. I'm not trying to like do memorization of the exact process that I didn't work this will be unique in whatever way shape or form to this to this specific period. And everyone listening really just what I want here. And you'll notice I'll talk a little quieter and a little more slowly, because want to inject more of a level of ease for you. Ideally, you're in a comfortable place right now, or you can just relax and try this. But if you're not, that's why Auggie uploads these episodes and keeps them up for you. Because you can go to this whenever you want. So whenever you're comfortable, whether it's now or in a future, hopefully soon, future moment, just want to invite you to close your eyes. And with no attachment, no need no requirement, just you know, and no, even keeping to the speed of how I'm saying it. Just breathe in and breathe out. Doing it at your own pace. And it doesn't matter if you're breathing through your nose, or through your mouth, out through your nose out through your mouth. These things, it's whatever feels natural to you. I just want you to breathe in and breathe out. And just relax and feel your body. Feel your chest expanding, feel yourself taking in this air taking in this quite this life really, and just enjoy it. And as you're breathing in and breathing out, and just feeling this level of ease, with no requirement of the perfect answer, or the right answer, I just want you to think what's the first thing that comes to mind as one of the if not the happiest moments of your life. And to whatever measure of whatever pops into your head, whether you're with somebody, or you're in a certain place, you're at a certain age, you've received a certain experience or a certain bit of news, whatever it might be. Take in this memory. And appreciate the fact that you got to live this. appreciate the fact that wherever you are in your life right now, not only did you get this, but there may yet be something even more amazing on the way to you that you just don't see yet. Because you just haven't painted enough strokes on that on that Canvas yet. But think back to that moment, whatever it might be. And as you do that, as you really breathe in the details, go back to now focusing on your breaths, just breathing in and breathing out. And maybe that memory is still right, you know, front and centre for you. Maybe it's not an either way is okay. And now, I want you to paint a brand new picture in your head of a joyous moment that it could be something you've experienced, it could be something in your life right now. Or it could be something on the way in the future. But pick a moment inspired by that previous joyful experience that you can just paint and you can go as heavily detailed, or as generalised if you want. If you're with somebody you love, you could be choosing to hold their hand, you could be choosing to cuddle on the couch watching a movie with them, you can just choose to be in that space where you just know you're in the same environment. If it's a certain location, if it's a beach, you can choose to feel the sand on your feet. Or you can choose to just be looking at the palm trees. Or you can be choosing to be at a carnival or a fare, or a roller coaster. Doesn't matter. It could be quiet, it could be loud. There's no limitations here. And hopefully as you're doing this, you're continuing to breathe in, and you're continuing to breathe out. And in case you forgotten hopefully you remember right now, it doesn't even matter. If you don't feel euphoric in this moment. It's okay, if you do. It doesn't matter if you don't. But take a minute as you're breathing as you've gone through these experiences these past couple of minutes. And just understand this is what it means to just feel good. This is the simplicity. There's no dramatic fireworks. There's no background theme song or orchestra playing behind you. Or maybe there is maybe you're feeling that. But there's no Hollywood requirement of what this is supposed to be. This is just you being in the moment, breathing, being alive, just feeling good. Return to this recording anytime you want. And understand that every new experience because you have a memory of this might be different, might be wildly different or might be just a little different. Every time is okay. But this is how simple and easy it is to just feel good.

Agi Keramidas  49:59  
Thank you That's really proving how easy it is how simple it is. And thank you for sharing this insights away with us today.

Andrew Kapp  50:13  
I resisted every urge in the hypnotic moment say, get my book just feel good on Amazon or audible. I resisted the temptation.

Agi Keramidas  50:24  
Tell us about that. Now that you you may I was about to ask you just now what's the best place for people to find you and find the book? organism?

Andrew Kapp  50:33  
Thank you. Thank you for asking. Well, so I know you have a global audience. So it anybody in the United States, if you go to awesome marvellous.com that loads up all the easy links to all the books on Amazon, where you can just click on any Amazon, that's the US listing. But anywhere you are in the world, you could literally just search your local Amazon, or your local audible for either the last law of attraction book you'll ever need to read, or for just feel good. And PS. If you don't feel like pulling out your wealth, that's okay, too. I still want to serve you. So you can also just as easily go to youtube.com/andrew cap, where I have a bunch of free videos on YouTube for you to enjoy at your, you know, at your convenience as well. So whether you're getting the books, or you're watching YouTube, as long as I'm helping in some way, and I'm serving you in some way, I'm a happy camper.

Agi Keramidas  51:22  
Thank you and Andrew it's been a delightful conversation I I really enjoyed it very much which I knew that I heard even before then, I want to thank you very much for joining me again on the podcast. What is your parting advice to the listeners today?

Andrew Kapp  51:48  
My parting advice is to not put too much pressure on what we've just spoken about today or what we just done today. The reason there's a reason I call it just feel good. I didn't title that book on accident. And yeah, I want people to notice it. I couldn't I could use to sell him what a few more copies but I wouldn't put a message out there unless it was actually really valid. So my my final parting advice is to whatever measure works for you just feel good. Whether it's 30 seconds, whether it's 60 seconds, whether it's 10 minutes, whether it's euphoria, or whether it's just a little hint of ease, my advice in the midst of everything going on in your life, it's just always take out a couple minutes and just feel good. And then don't put pressure just see what happens. And you know, by all means, feel free to share good news with me or share good news with Auggie when when that cool stuff really comes for you. But that's a whole secondary thing. Just feeling good. That's the real main event.

Agi Keramidas  52:51  
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