#383 Snippets of wisdom: Notice your auto-pilot response.

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Agi Keramidas  0:02  
You are listening to Personal Development Mastery, the podcast that empowers you with a simple and consistent actions you need to create a life of purpose and fulfilment. This is another snippet of wisdom where I select my favourite most insightful moments from previous episodes. Today's snippet comes from my conversation with Bob Doyle, who is featured Law of Attraction teacher in the secret, the book or in the film, The Secret. The snippet is about noticing our autopilot response. And I hope it is as insightful for you, as it was for me. Before we dive into the snippet, if you enjoy listening and appreciate what we're doing here, the simple quick favour I would like to ask of you is to click the subscribe button. Now let's get started.

Bob Doyle  1:01  
It's the noticing your autopilot response. Because even the more you do it, like at first, you can say it first the first time you notice it, you can just say yep, that's me and autopilot. And you'll probably just go do whatever you know, you're going to do anyway. But the more you catch yourself, and the more you realise and tell yourself, this is just wiring, it's going to be some of the emotional connection, the depth of the emotional or the negative emotional responses in that situation will die off. Because you're really reinforcing over and over that this isn't truth. I don't need to be upset about this. My wiring wants to be upset about this. But but I'm not going to go there. And the more that you so the more that you notice, the more that you're able to be a little bit more detached from the emotion of it. Because you're seeing that wow, I'm basically just kind of a robot here until I make a conscious choice to be something that overrides this autopilot. Because if you think about the whole concept of freewill it's dicey because we are on autopilot for the most part, our brain is, you know, even when we think we're making a decision, that's freewill, what's driving that decision? Why are we making that decision? What series of events happened that made us come to that decision that this is what we want, or whatever. And sometimes the decisions that we make the things that we say that we want, aren't really like as empowering or awesome as they could be. They're just driven by our autopilot wiring. Do you understand what I'm saying? So there's like so many actions and things that we do in our lives that we feel like we're just making a free choice, but but we're not really, it's like, given our wiring, this is the only thing we we could do. Now to get true will. That starts with that awareness. And you go wait a minute, this this behaviour I'm going to take I'm I'm like I'm being robotic right now, I'm not being this isn't conscious, really. It's unkind, it feels conscious, but it's not it based on this just autopilot stuff, when you can override that, and supersede that will that that freewill that's based on whatever with what you truly want, like what this future person would want. Now you've got true will. And that's where it really, that's where the magic really happens, that's when you really come to your life and start to design it, rather than just sort of, you know, coasting through it based on what comes at you. People can go down such dark roads on autopilot, and stay there for days or weeks or years. Yeah. And they don't have to, it's just a decision. But the decision feels so counterintuitive to their current wiring that they just can't bring themselves to do it. But that's why you got to have support, you got to have a different set of eyes, you got to have somebody who can see what you can't see it's imperative, because again, you're looking at the world through your lens, you you can't help it, but see it the way that it is, you know that you're programmed to see it. But knowing that there is another way is key. That way you can accept input from the outside and refrain from the outside. Because if you're not, if you go, this is the truth, you're just going to reject everything that comes to you in the way of, you know, oh, yeah, that'd be great. But this is the way it is. Right? But that's so again, you have to be willing to understand how autopilot wired you are and be willing to accept coaching or feedback or you know, a bigger picture in there even though your wiring is going to resist it. So again, this is transformation is a big deal. We're talking about changing yourself intentionally. So we transform throughout our lives on autopilot and we're not you know, without thinking about a person who's not even in personal development, we're changing our whole lives. What we're about is waking up and going, No, I want rapid change. I want to fish I don't want another 40 years to go before I change who I am. If my brain is plastic and I can change it. Let's get into it. Let's start it. Let's start this process now. And I'm willing to go through the discomfort I'm willing to listen to my friends and family tell me that I'm clear easier, whatever. Because the vision I have is so non negotiable be strong and inspiring to me that it doesn't matter what these people say. When you elevate your vision, when you elevate who you're being, there's no guarantee that people around you are going to be on board. In fact, they're probably going to resist. You've everybody there is there appropriately based on who you've been being started being something else a all bets are off. We allow ourselves to be guided by their input, their opinions, that's all them. And that's what people need to understand. Even if they're talking about you. That's them. That's their interpretation about you based on their wiring, their experience, their limiting beliefs and the whole thing. So you got to be very careful about input from the outside if it does not empower you.

Agi Keramidas  5:48  
Thank you for tuning in. You can listen to the full Conversation with Bob Doyle in Episode 170. The link is in the show notes. Bob has also contributed to have the insights in my book 88 actionable insights for life, which you can get on Amazon. And until next time, stand out don't fit in!